Aspies For Freedom

I miss people that I love and am very attached to.

I have no idea what it means to be lonely. I do not have this emotion. Also, I can spend incredible amounts of time alone and miss no one. Not even family.

I think you're lucky if you never feel loneliness, I am a loner and am used to being alone, yet sometimes I get terribly lonely (if that makes any sense?)

Okay, what I mean is, I do not really like socializing, I spend a huge amount of time alone, but on occasion I would really like to talk to someone who is on my wavelength and that is when I feel very lonely.

I don't understand why parents miss their kids when they are gone for a few days or are in school. I don't understand why my bf misses me when I'm out of town for a week. I don't miss him when he goes to work. It's not like he is going off to Iraq. It's not like we live 500 miles apart, it's not like he is gone for the season.


My mother suggests reason why I don't miss my bf when I am away is because I like to be alone.

Spokane girl: I would guess that it is because they are parents. Some parents worry more about their children than others. Also, parents are frequently more aware of the various unpleasant things that can happen to children than the children are. My parents certainly are, and I'm 23.
As for why you don't miss your boyfriend, my guess is that it's because you know you'll see him again. Sure you won't see him during the day, but you'll see him in the evening. It's probably that assurance that you'll see him again that keeps you from missing him. I tend to do that too; my mom can go off and be gone all day, and she'll be wanting to kiss my goodbye, and I just go "ok, see you tonight."

On topic:
I miss some people, but not others. It sort of depends on the person. I miss family members/close friends more than I just miss casual buddies or acquaintances.

"I have no idea what it means to be lonely. I do not have this emotion. Also, I can spend incredible amounts of time alone and miss no one. Not even family." - Chosen

Me, too.

I seem to lack a few emotions. :S

But I'm expressive of the ones I do have.

I hardly miss anyone......I'm just starting to miss people whom I love and are close to. Other than that, I don't miss people. I sound insensitive when I say that though.

hmmmm,I cant remember anyone ever saying that they miss me. Well one less thing to worry about.

I feel that way sometimes myself, but then feel guilty for it. I know seeing a person as only a means of convenience is highly insensitive, but I don't know. I seem to have to feel up to expressing emotions, like have the energy to do it. It's like, it takes significant effort for me to do so, where with NTs it appears to come naturally.

Yeah, i don't really miss people much.  Or if i do, i don't realize it till i see them again.  Like when i went to visit my mom for a week last summer (she lives ~700mi away), i wasn't too bothered because i could still talk to my fiance on the phone and online, but he missed me terribly.  When i got home, i realized i missed him, tho not as badly as he missed me. :s

with friends, i'm really bad about not keeping in contact.  i tell all my friends they have to call me, because i won't remember to call them.

and no, i don't really have any concept of 'loneliness' either.  i remember telling my mom when i was in elementary school (don't remember the age) that i didn't see what the big deal was about friends, why everyone said i needed some, because i didn't see the point.  I'm perfectly happy by myself, i don't feel lonely or bad about not having friends, and i don't need anyone to talk to about stuff, if i have a problem i figure it out.  She just looked at me for a minute and said that everyone makes a big deal about friends because most people want them, but if i don't, then that just means i'm a stronger, more self-sufficient person than everyone else.

Me too.  I have never felt the emotion of loneliness.  But I do miss people (if I like them a lot).  Same with love and jealousy.  Strange.

I feel lonely quite a bit but at the same time also like being by myself more than probably most people. Being on my own in a group of people having fun and when I don't know any of them is kind of painful too.

Hum, well for me I miss the person if I like them, heck I'd rather be around them and stuff to play. But yea I'm bored alone, and of course life is drag alone. But I feel like I lived 30 years for no reason except to waste time!

I miss people yes :| then again if they don't miss me I feel ill missing them so eh

I do get the impression around the uni very few, if any people there would actually miss me. It is quite impersonal.