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hi....i am new to this board.  i am a member of another proautism board.  while looking around over there i found this link
http://www.momlogic.com/2008/06/autism_d...nation.php
I am not sure if anyone has already posted about this, but i am sick sick sick about it!!! my children and i have endured discrimination, but nothing to this extent, and on top of that there are people-real, breathing, feeling people who thought this is all ok!  those people should just sit down and shut up.
well, i am just not good at doing either of those things when it comes to my children and their civil rights!
if anyone knows how we can help these parents let me know and i will do what i can!  
in the community i live in there is still alot of ignorance and people here seem to love aba, i abhore the entire concept of aba in all forms and fashions.  i don't care if my kids look you in the eyes (that is for you not for them), i don't care if my son needs to stim to get into walmart, or if he sings everytime he goes into a bathroom.  these are things that help them adapt to their surroundings.  everyone should be able to adapt, to feel comfortable.  aba does not help the person with autism it helps the parents feel like they have a normal kid.
i was the leader of an autism support and advocacy center in the town that we live in.  one of the things we would do to promote acceptance is we would all get together and go to Golden corral (or any restraunt) wearing homemade autism awareness t-shirts ("My name is Eli and i have pddnos with sensory integration disorder.  there is nothing wrong with me, i just think different." and then there were pictures of the kids all over the tshirt learning how to do life skill activities).  There would be 20 families with children from each end of the spectrum, stimming, singing, and just being beautiful.  when people would stare at us i would simply walk over to their table and give them a business card i made explaining the basics of autism.
this would usually end in a long conversation with questions being asked about some nephew or friend's kid.  
my kids are older now, and alot of the extreme behaviors have subsided (at least out in public), still i know that if they get stressed then we may see the behaviors in public again.
i was just wondering if there are any other ideas for community awareness/acceptance that people are using.  i would love to hear them!  
thanks-grace
I do like the idea of handing over a business card to those who have some unwanted reactions to someone on the spectrum. An outline of what autism is would be a great idea on one side. Our Qld org does have a small card this is given to employers to assist in understanding on an intial contact.

micgrace Wrote:
I do like the idea of handing over a business card to those who have some unwanted reactions to someone on the spectrum. An outline of what autism is would be a great idea on one side. Our Qld org does have a small card this is given to employers to assist in understanding on an intial contact.

I thought of making up a card for myself but wasn't sure what to put on it.

Hello...
Yes, there are already threads about a couple/few of those stories in your link.  The AFF forum I think, all signed the petition about the boy "voted" out of class.  It is sad to think, sometimes, how little compassion some people have for those that don't act exactly like they are expected to.

It is a shame that many people working in many industries are so stressed out in their own lives that they seem to feel it is just too much to stretch themselves to be more understanding.  As if in the status quo everything is all working so well.  Everyone could use a shift in thinking, it seems, to think more of each person as having not only feelings, but the inherent right to not be discriminated against.
Nothing constructive to say, but wecome to AFF anyway!
i truly do appreciate my time on this forum!!!  thank you for the welcome!

i agree that society needs to make a shift in thinking!  it doesn't seem that mainstream ideology would be any worse for the wear if everyone thought just like me <insert laughter here>
Welcome to AFF!

Yeah, there's so much misunderstanding that goes on, and especially alarming is that so much of it comes from people who are considered professionals, with long degrees from good schools.

Sometimes I feel like shaking them and saying, "Just because you were told that this is good information about autistics doesn't mean it's true! In fact a lot of it is BACKWARDS!"
As I like to say, never trust someone because of their degree.  Even Harvard can give degrees in bullshit.
Yeah, I learned that when I was 13, and the counselor spewed so much bigoted bull<Tee hee hee - I didn't use a real swear here, either>, that I started to realize how they would dangle their degrees over my head so they could tell me why I did what I did, what I was thinking, and why it's all a sign of my pathology rather than my standing up to abuse and intimidation.

micgrace Wrote:
I do like the idea of handing over a business card to those who have some unwanted reactions to someone on the spectrum. An outline of what autism is would be a great idea on one side. Our Qld org does have a small card this is given to employers to assist in understanding on an intial contact.

I forgot about this post. It makes more sense than ever.

1. I have Aspergers Syndrome.

2. My thought processes are different to yours.

3. Many Famous people throughout history had Aspergers Syndrome.

4. Social activities are disorientating to me.

5. I am very loyal and truthful.

Something like this on the backend of a business card wouldn't be a bad idea (not in stone, someone may have better ideas than me)

Sounds good to me. I also find I get a better response from other people if I simply say I have autism. They often don't understand technical terms for the various sub-conditions so keeping it simple is best, as far as I'm concerned.
I had a go at a prof today who came up with a weird test. Basically you where given a fossil and a minute to answer on it with him counting down on the time. You had to identify what it was, what sort of environment it came and whether it was a cast, mineral replacement original material etc. It takes that long for me to follow the instructions to pick the darn thing up and begin processing.

I said I have aspergers syndrome. What is that, I never heard of it. Heard of HFA? Yes well its the same and this sort of test is not testing what I know but a handicap I have with short term memory. I need to see the things first then given time off then ten mins later I can answer. No reply. Then, if you have a problem lets see what can be done about it.
The concern I have with having a t-shirt that says "Pdd-nos" is most people would say "what on earth is that?" but if it said "autism", it would be more understandable.

earthmonkey Wrote:
Yeah, I learned that when I was 13, and the counselor spewed so much bigoted bull<Tee hee hee - I didn't use a real swear here, either>, that I started to realize how they would dangle their degrees over my head so they could tell me why I did what I did, what I was thinking, and why it's all a sign of my pathology rather than my standing up to abuse and intimidation.


Exactly right.  Also, a doubly bad position for a youth who is discriminated against always.  Ideas are typically not given credence -no matter how well thought out - unless there is a "proper" vetting of credentials by the establishment.  Credentials are a dime a dozen, (in this case) whereas inspired or individual thought is more of a rarity.  Beurocracies function poorly because too much weight is given to things learned by rote.

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