I guess I can only speak for me and how I see AFF, but I think NT's are welcome here. I hope you don't leave Korrigan. I think it's great that you want to try to understand your husband better and have an interest in speaking to Aspies in a forum atmosphere like this.
NTs, imo, are as welcome here as anyone else. As an Aa, I often don't feel particularly welcome here myself. People don't like having the flaws in their logic pointed out, or having their facts questioned, but I don't know how to have a meaningful conversation otherwise. My delivery might also be a factor. I notice that you, Korrigan, occasionally point out flaws as well. Perhaps this is a factor in your perception?
Having said that, I think you are one of the most well-written, got-it-together posters on AFF at the mo. If you look around, there is no particular neurotype that catches hell any more or any less than any other. Equal opportunity offenders - join the fun!!!
I like you. I really like you. Please don't leave.
I am not sure that posting this is a good idea, but I honestly wonder sometimes whether or not NT people are welcome on this forum.
I'll echo in my own "yes" here - most people have no problems with NT's being here.
Unfortunate, there's always going to be some twits around that will complain about NT's being here, or will use the "but you're NT, what would you know" line in an argument - there's not too much that can be done about that. Just remember that the majority of people here aren't like that, and the ones that are are generally ignorable.
Here it seems that the skin is a little thicker and the community is a little stronger... then again, I haven't hit anyone's sore spot yet here.... Knock on wood.
And what do you mean by that?
*grins* Joking - couldn't resist...
And what is flaming anyway????
Ideally, I'd love to have NT people able to come here (or to an Aspie-majority forum somewhere) and get a positive idea of what Aspergers is about - a bunch of people talking about the good things they're doing, making plans, supporting and comporting each other and generallys SHOWING (rather than just SAYING) that they're worthwhile human beings and fine just the way they are.
Unfortunately, anyone who wanders in here at the moment is more likely to get caught in the middle of a flame war.
Guess what? I have been flamed.
This place needs a reform of some sort.
Wikipedia article on internet flaming - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flaming_%28Internet%29
But to put it simply, it would be insulting or acting in a hostile manner to a person or people on an internet forum.
That was a passionate, excited speech jedimom777. I imagined you on a podium throughout that. Good to see someone excited
Hey Korrigan - I'm NT and I have felt welcome here. I'm here trying to understand my husband and nephew and to help us all get along better. I read more than I post and often have enlightening moments when I think 'so THAT is why he does that!'.
I think we are all just people, AS or NT, neither better nor worse than each other, simply different. I don't think anyone can say 'All Aspies are ....' or 'All NTs are .....'. I think we should all do our best to be courteous to each other, though I am aware of an AS tendency to take personally or detrimentally things which were not directed at that particular person. If I don't agree with peoples' opinions I don't have to be hurt. They are entitled to their opinions and this is a forum. I'm not obliged to keep reading if I don't like it and I think we should try to assume that peoples ideas are general and not directed at any individual.
I'm going to summarise, and hopefully finish this thing off.
1) NT's are entirely welcome here, no question. Particular individuals may occasionally disagree, but this isn't the opinion of the site as a whole.
2) The other more specific issues mentioned in this thread are unresolvable, and there's no real point in continuing to talk about it.
I'm glad I am welcome here
I don't post alot and try to be careful in how I word things (on this forum and the many others I belong to). I like to see the perspective of everyone and will offer advice from my 'NT' perspective when I can...
When I find myself being reactive--it's a tip-off to question what's really at stake. Useful info, often.
That's good advice. I do tend to be reactive, especially when it comes to insults, put-downs or anything that is someone acting in a wrong way. I just get this feeling that I don't want people to get away with it... Real life doesn't always allow for sticking up for yourself because the mind doesn't think quickly enough, but forums don't have those time constraints.
I think sometimes sleeping on it is the best advice...
Leave it alone jiggeryqua. No need to keep this argument going. For what it's worth I don't see you apologizing for telling Korrigan to leave the forum either... So lets just call it even...
Even the initials 'LC' don't do much for me anymore... and as anyone who knows yours truly knows, there once was a time where I'd quite possibly have been knifing my screen at the mention of it.
Rarrr...
wow
those initials still make me want to shoot that guy
T***
anyways
I hoep that you don't leave Korrigan this may be a predominantly aspie site but NT's are still welcome
Even the initials 'LC' don't do much for me anymore... and as anyone who knows yours truly knows, there once was a time where I'd quite possibly have been knifing my screen at the mention of it.
Rarrr...
wow
those initials still make me want to shoot that guy
T***
anyways
I hope that you don't leave Korrigan this may be a predominantly aspie site but NT's are still welcome
arrgh spelling mistakes......... >.<
Would watching emotional movies, movies with long conversations help you decode NT emotions and social cues? How about plays?
Someone mentioned once that etiquette books really helped him understand NT culture when he was younger....
sorry meant to say my last reply was for ocampo.....