Ideally, I'd love to have NT people able to come here (or to an Aspie-majority forum somewhere) and get a positive idea of what Aspergers is about - a bunch of people talking about the good things they're doing, making plans, supporting and comporting each other and generallys SHOWING (rather than just SAYING) that they're worthwhile human beings and fine just the way they are.
Unfortunately, anyone who wanders in here at the moment is more likely to get caught in the middle of a flame war.
I'm on the aspie/NT borderline.
I think it's great that people with all sorts of different perspectives are here. That includes neuro-status, age, gender, sexual orientation, relationship status, parents, and the rest of the stuff on the usual lists.
In my opinion, people should be treated as individuals and if somebody has a problem with someone, deal with it by addressing that specific person, and not the group to which that person might be assigned based on what he or she has said about him/herself.
So to answer your question....yes, I think so.
You are very welcome here Korrigan!!!
I think the more tolerance is practiced in the world and the more folks get diagnosed, the less defensive everyone will need to be.
Perfect point.
Oh heck, I am a supposed NT and I get knocked back all the time. This post, in fact, was somewhat brought on by my fragile ego. I try my absolute best to post carefully for all people. I do, really
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oops - love and hugs Korrigan.
I know you get het up and upset but you don't think flame anyone.
You are nice.
The internet is part of problem .... it increases feelings of misunderstanding.
I refer you to the section you posted this in:
NT/AS interaction
We wouldn't have that there if NTs weren't welcome. Just recently we had someone on chatautism harrassing someone purely for being NT and even going so far as to make legal threats who had to be banned. Bigotry runs both ways.
I think it is ok for NT's to post up here. They just might want to be aware that the aspies here (and other people on the spectrum) have differing degrees of empathy. They don't need to be abused for that. Some explanations sometimes are needed to explain feelings about certain situations.
But I think it should be primarily an aspie board and not filled up with just all NT's talking to each other. It might be better if they had their own forum for their specific problems. Being an aspie affects almost every aspect of my life - so maybe being an NT makes their life totally different as well??? I don't know what they need specially.
"Extremely Interesting Person...Handle With Intelligence and Compassion"....
I like this one - a badge would do it -- I need a badge like this for work.
Personally, I'm more interested in the way individuals behave, rather than the groups they nominally 'belong' to. I wonder sometimes how many of the NTs who post here are actually aspie (and vice versa). I can see why NT parents or partners might come here, for feedback related to issues or concerns with the aspies in their lives - but I do wonder why some of them stay and use it, apparantly, as a significant part of their online social life.
I do find it easier to tolerate arguments/flaming from aspies here than from NTs - being called a moron by an NT user for holding different political views to them isn't going to win me over, not least when they refuse either to back it up or apologise for it (as has been mentioned elsewhere in a similar incident, it's a particularly wounding sort of insult to throw around in here). Actually, it wouldn't matter to me whether it was an aspie or an NT who'd done it - I wouldn't welcome that person anywhere. Establishing a fact-free political orthodoxy through social pressure and aggressive posturing just isn't something I welcome.
Jiggeryqua, I like you alot. I want you to stay and enjoy the forum.
I understand why you feel attacked, I think sometimes people should be kinder, whoever they are. I don't imagine you are enjoying the arguing and I imagine you are feeling pretty frustrated.
You seem like a good guy who really wants to put up a good fight for what you see as being right.
I don't want to pick out rights or wrongs - just saying how jiggeryqua might be feeling.
forgive me if I am right of the mark Jiggeryqua.
Lots of things have been said now - that shouldn't have been said - so can you guys call it a truce now. Korrigan - I think you would like Jiggerqua if met him in real life.
Jiggeryqua is a really good guy.
Korrigan you are nice too (of course) -- both of you are quite fiery.
Check out general in a few minutes.........
LOL, the Pacific Northwet is living up to its reputation today.
I thought that the "mormon" comment was funny also.
I'm used to being called an idiot, so being called a moron might be considered a step up.
It's kind of fascinating to me how certain comments or issues can trigger reactivity. This appears to be a phenomenon shared by folks of all neurotypes. Human nature.
When I find myself being reactive--it's a tip-off to question what's really at stake. Useful info, often.
