Hi everyone I'm back as my autie traits are bugging the hell out of me write now.
I met a guy I really liked last weekend, he was a but drunk but sobered up later so not totally wasted and I was not. All night he was hugging me, we got on real well, he kept hugging me and then apologysing for being drunk and huggy lots. We was later alone in my friend's living room on the sofa, his hugging was more like arms round me, leaning into me, stroking my hands (commenting on how small they were), made hints to his living situation (at his parents - ie being hard to take girls home), I swear he wanted to make a move but I think I gave off negative signels unintentionally, anyway I was brave enough to get his phone number, he asked me out later and also told my friend he liked me. He seems really busy genuinelly. Should we meet again, where do I go and how the hell do I turn up the flirting... my usual is text message but he does not seem very into text conversations.
Gays? I'm confused...
Anyway... just do whatever feels right. Talking helps... don't get into feeling like you have to do the flirting thing, because then you're becoming someone you're not. And I find most decent guys appreciate a girl that they can talk to, as opposed to one that sits and giggles like a Barbie doll at everything they say. Chewing pigtails coyly is
so 1952
I'd help you, but I don't know much about gays and "aspies" for that matter.
Where did you get the idea that Fruitcake was a gay male?
Chewing pigtails coyly is
so 1952
Korrigan spits out her pigtail and looks innocently away, not thinking of Ian....LOL!
I wish I had a pigtail to chew... I'm well upset now
I have hair extensions though I have no-one to AFFlirt with... nomnomnom anyway
Well, HMM.
His name is FRUITcake.
"Fruit" can mean "gay".
You say HIS! I think Fruitcake is a girl. She was commenting about the guy not being able to take girls home. But I am not completely sure, I admit.
I like apples
Hi everyone I'm back as my autie traits are bugging the hell out of me write now.
I met a guy I really liked last weekend, he was a but drunk but sobered up later so not totally wasted and I was not. All night he was hugging me, we got on real well, he kept hugging me and then apologysing for being drunk and huggy lots. We was later alone in my friend's living room on the sofa, his hugging was more like arms round me, leaning into me, stroking my hands (commenting on how small they were), made hints to his living situation (at his parents - ie being hard to take girls home), I swear he wanted to make a move but I think I gave off negative signels unintentionally, anyway I was brave enough to get his phone number, he asked me out later and also told my friend he liked me. He seems really busy genuinelly. Should we meet again, where do I go and how the hell do I turn up the flirting... my usual is text message but he does not seem very into text conversations.
I've always found going out to see a movie together is a good idea. It gives you something to talk about afterwards. Don't worry about the flirting... just talk and enjoy time together and let things happen.
Oh, and to your original question. Well, he was drunk, and that may affect what he was thinking at the time. I could be wrong, but he may have been trying to have a good night, rather than a good relationship.
Text messages can be difficult to some people. I think that Bella's suggestion of a movie is a good one. I also have always liked coffee shops. Even if you do not drink coffee, you can get tea or something else, and sit and talk.
I was thinking about that too Korrigan... When I was single, I found the best thing to do was to make sure you went on a few casual dates first... you know the getting to know someone almost friends stage first, before taking it further... That way you get to know what kind of person they are before you get clouded with the romance of intimacy.
I could be wrong, but he may have been trying to have a good night,
Out walkin' the dinosaur?
Oh, and to your original question. Well, he was drunk, and that may affect what he was thinking at the time. I could be wrong, but he may have been trying to have a good night, rather than a good relationship.
I realized, later, on the way home on the bus, that my statement may have sounded harsh. I meant it in more of a protective way, and it was said because you mentioned that he is busy at the moment, and I was thinking:
1) Be careful, he may have been feeling rather uninhibited at the time and was a bit more "friendly" than he would have been if sober. This could cause him to be embarrassed later, and that could be why he seems busy at the moment.
2) He could also have been trying to get laid. Which sounds so harsh, but this is entirely possible. Boys will be boys, men will be men. (By the way, this is not limited to the male sex on a regular basis, had this been a male straight guy posting, I would have said, women will be women, girls will be girls, but that does not apply here.)
If he is worth his weight he will be responsive to you and you two will work out a way to communicate, and a comfortable place for a date.
I'M A GIRL AND STRAIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lots of good thoughts there. I also like the idea of a movie, if only because I love films and miss having people to go with buts the pressure of me communicating all night.
We will see I am letting him get on with his work, I'll text him over the weekend.
Hmm. Should I ask a mod to remove my last post?? Sometimes I'm not sure where exactly the line is for what could be inappropriate for younger members. Sorry.