My best friend and his wife have been married nearly 13 years. I've not only seen ice in that relationship, I've seen it persist, ice ages
I wish folks like Tim Homer and Batman would tell folks like my best friend to appreciate being married. How'd you love it IF you were married to a 35 year old petite blond who keeps a good diet, college educated, no kids, gives the impression she would make a cuddly wife, Wonder Woman when it comes to thrifty living, and (drawback?) maintains a firm Christian/moral/religious/possibly Republican identity.
I wish folks like Aeolienne and etheral would folks like his wife to appreciate being married too, kids or not. How'd you love it IF you were married to a 39 year old buff outdoorsy Mr. Fix It (he looks a helluva lot better than I do especially when we're both in swim trunks) who does electrical wiring for a living (has also done multi-level marketing, pesticide spraying, selling and installing alarm systems, and what he trained for, teaching middle school science). He does not believe in divorce, ever. If he spends too much time on XYZ project around the house he is misguided, not freezing her out, maybe he thinks he is improving the resale value of the home. He does not have a problem with smokes or beer, she has an attitude problem about beer and cigs, and I know she has an attitude about obesity in a woman's mate, so I presume she keeps the place relatively free of snacks too.
Aside from apologizing for sounding like a Rick Springfield song, most of us Aspies do feel angry at the inevitable injustice we will face in matters of intimate relationships.
Every single one of us is very likely to connect on some level to the West Bank intifada: if you substitute NTs for Israelis, and Aspies for Palestinians, our employment and/or our struggles with wanting to connect emotionally with one special person, is for each one of us an intifada, an uprising. And all we can do given that any person is free to exercise one's own judgment for a choice of mate, is throw stones, only words of how we feel. We have no other [legal] recourse whatsoever (SoulSick and the great lives theory have suggested certain types of criminal activity as illicit varieties of recourse, but to be sure, they are punished as readily as Israelis using live ammunition)
Very few NTs are willing (or capable?) of trying to meet us in intimate meetings. It doesn't make much of a difference whether they are willing or capable. Free will means we cannot make them do anything, other than a very LOW KEY attempt at awareness in the matter. The last thing we want is NTs in it for the wrong reason.
GuessWho your incredible lack of experience in the arena of serious relationships and/or marriage is evident in many things you post.
You really cannot fathom to walk a mile in either your friends shoes, or his wife's shoes either.
And I would probably guess that your best friend would not appreciate your posting about his marriage either. It is not really a very "friendly" kind of action.
Marriage is something that takes effort every day. Not all people are great fits for each other, and sometimes it takes YEARS to get that figured out.
Your posting makes me laugh to myself a little, and makes me a little sad, too.
Out of curiousity, Korrigan... why must you give GuessWho such a hard time...?
Sigh. Being rejected by NTs is in no way comparable to what Palestinians experience every day.
I'd also like to add that while there is discrimination against people on the spectrum which needs to be addressed, partially through legislation, I'm utterly confused by the way GuessWho presents these issues. Sorry, but you do not have the "right" to an intimate relationship. You might want one very badly and I feel for you, but it's not a right. Frankly I feel a bit disturbed, as a woman, by your mention of "legal" recourses.
I love Guess who - he spends a lot time on this forum exploring openly his ideas. He is very open to feedback and to other peoples ideas. He has his feelings about things - based on his experiences and the lack of acceptance people he has experienced.
I really do believe Chris understands about 'rights'.
Sigh. Being rejected by NTs is in no way comparable to what Palestinians experience every day.
GuessWho apparently suffers from ID (Intarnets Dizeeze). Symptoms include accusing a meter maid of being identical to Adolf Hitler in oppressive power and effect.
Frankly I feel a bit disturbed, as a woman, by your mention of "legal" recourses.
What, you don't like the idea of the government setting up programs wherein women would be forced to enter into and maintain "intimate relationships"? I bet you don't think the Japanese Empire's "comfort women" program was all that great an idea, either.
What next, you going to oppose slavery?
Leaving them anonymous didn't make it right. I'm sorry.
And I am also sorry I even so much as felt (let alone expressed, even if I had not) a wish that I was married to someone very much like the woman in question. The Christians would immediately recognize that as covetousness and that is a sin.
I am a Democrat Christian.
I love Guess who - he spends a lot time on this forum exploring openly his ideas. He is very open to feedback and to other peoples ideas. He has his feelings about things - based on his experiences and the lack of acceptance people he has experienced.
I really do believe Chris understands about 'rights'.
Are we both living on the same planet here? Chris draws a certain amount of flak when he makes fatuous comments. I realise much of it is unintentional but even when some of us say we object to certain things, he just doesn't seem to get the point.
Batman, you might want to take note of this too.
Ah, the other side of the coin is that Aspies are usually very particular about who they want as a partner. This is alright up to a point but becomes self-defeating when they ask the impossible.
What does all this Palestinian stuff have to do with love anyway?
What does all this Palestinian stuff have to do with love anyway?
It's called "being a drama queen".
*rumages in attick* aha! *hands over pretty silver thing*
Here's one with a nice saphire in it to match your eyes.
My best friend and his wife have been married nearly 13 years. I've not only seen ice in that relationship, I've seen it persist, ice ages
I wish folks like Tim Homer and Batman would tell folks like my best friend to appreciate being married. How'd you love it IF you were married to a 35 year old petite blond who keeps a good diet, college educated, no kids, gives the impression she would make a cuddly wife, Wonder Woman when it comes to thrifty living, and (drawback?) maintains a firm Christian/moral/religious/possibly Republican identity.
I wish folks like Aeolienne and etheral would folks like his wife to appreciate being married too, kids or not. How'd you love it IF you were married to a 39 year old buff outdoorsy Mr. Fix It (he looks a helluva lot better than I do especially when we're both in swim trunks) who does electrical wiring for a living (has also done multi-level marketing, pesticide spraying, selling and installing alarm systems, and what he trained for, teaching middle school science). He does not believe in divorce, ever. If he spends too much time on XYZ project around the house he is misguided, not freezing her out, maybe he thinks he is improving the resale value of the home. He does not have a problem with smokes or beer, she has an attitude problem about beer and cigs, and I know she has an attitude about obesity in a woman's mate, so I presume she keeps the place relatively free of snacks too.
Why have I been dragged into this? 