04-21-2008, 08:23 PM
04-21-2008, 09:34 PM
if i am happy i get good at things and if i am good at things i get happy... the trouble occurs when the cycle is reversed. In order to prevent this... i use the exising good to get more good, and then if i do bad i know i wasn't doing my best... actually, if i fail but it is really my best then thats ok, but i don't often use my very best so i don't know what that is.
04-21-2008, 10:34 PM
Gareth, how long or at what age did you get that feeling, that confidence and that competence to go along with your special interests. I am sure it is hard work and not just talent that gets you to that point, but at what age did you feel good at it and about it? It takes patience doesn't it? like alot of patience?My son does not have that yet -too many tries without success, though he still does try... we are keeping the attitude as cheery as possible (at home anyway) like you said under the right circumstances and the "right frame of mind".
04-22-2008, 09:54 PM
Ethel Wrote:
I think this is actually related to the emotion thing - either not being able to describe or recognise what you're feeling, not being aware you're feeling it, or not feeling it at all.
I liken it to monitors. If you've got a daggy old monitor that only displays 16 colours, you can have it plugged into the fanciest computer on earth, and run the most sophisticated software on it, but you're not going to see all the graduations of depth and shade that the programs are generating, because it's being fed to you via an imprecise instrument. Instead, you're going to get blocky slabs of colour with clearly delineated edges between them.
That's a bit how my emotions are. Instead of going through a sequence like: happy happy happy a bit bored, bit more bored, annoyed, frustrated, angry, thoroughly pissed off, resigned, miserable, depressed, I'd just go HAPPY PISSED OFF DEPRESSED.
I liken it to monitors. If you've got a daggy old monitor that only displays 16 colours, you can have it plugged into the fanciest computer on earth, and run the most sophisticated software on it, but you're not going to see all the graduations of depth and shade that the programs are generating, because it's being fed to you via an imprecise instrument. Instead, you're going to get blocky slabs of colour with clearly delineated edges between them.
That's a bit how my emotions are. Instead of going through a sequence like: happy happy happy a bit bored, bit more bored, annoyed, frustrated, angry, thoroughly pissed off, resigned, miserable, depressed, I'd just go HAPPY PISSED OFF DEPRESSED.
I think for me at least that the progression is probably there. It's just that I don't want to pay attention or don't really understand it. I find feelings a bit confusing really. I mean getting the feelings out of your head or the thoughts and understanding them and why they're there. I know even through one day I tend to cycle and that's the most confusing thing, because it happens so quickly and it does seem to just go from happy to crappy (which can be annoyed, sad, completely withdrawn, whatever). I don't know if that's normal though, maybe it is.
Ethel Wrote:
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Criticism can push us to try harder, thus become more competent!
And criticism can tear us apart and destroy us. Because 'criticism' is a many headed beast. For me, the worst of it comes from within myself.
I can also relate to the worst criticism being inside my own head. I would go so far as to say that I think most people have some sort of critical self voice. It's the voice that tells you you're doing something embarrassing or making a mistake, or people are looking and laughing at you. Some just learn how to deal with it and manage it better than others.
Yes criticism can push us to try harder and improve ourselves, but it must be done in a certain way. I can't really think of how to define the difference between criticism that is hard to take and that which is not... but it has to do with the level of self investment I suppose and the emotions that are attached to the criticised aspect of ourselves.
04-23-2008, 01:11 AM
My self-confidence is a limitless well which unfortunately spills over into arrogance sometimes, but yes, I have seen how it's sometimes related to skill in special interests. I'm good at them.
As for mood swings, mine are so cyclic it's hard to take them seriously (might have something to do with meds.) Initially just tired, happy by tenish, miserable by fourish, happy again by about seven. Though, that only happens on school days so it's partly that I get worn down.
And speaking of criticism, theres a bunch of poems and a short story in the writing section...
...also I would be more than happy to look at anything anyone else did...
As for mood swings, mine are so cyclic it's hard to take them seriously (might have something to do with meds.) Initially just tired, happy by tenish, miserable by fourish, happy again by about seven. Though, that only happens on school days so it's partly that I get worn down.
And speaking of criticism, theres a bunch of poems and a short story in the writing section...
...also I would be more than happy to look at anything anyone else did...
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