How much advance warning are we talking about here?
You can take his anxieties seriously.
Thank you Silky (and everyone else who has been kind enough to respond.)
Honestly, we just figured it out, along with all of the other AS things, that this is a normal response for him. We have been puzzled by it for years, as we would make plans, he would seem excited, and then he would have such anxiety before it happened. This post was about people coming to our home, but he also has anxiety about concerts and things. I got us very special $250 tickets to a concert last year that we BOTH really wanted to go to...and he almost backed out at the last second.
I do want to have friends over, but he is my priority, so I am minimizing visits, and working with him to make them as comfortable as possible. Thing is, he really does like these people (he stresses out when it is HIS friends coming as well.)
Today I am going to offer to leave him behind and take the crowd out to the museum.
great idea
if hes up to it maybe he could make the evening meal-if not doesnt matter-its not very often mine can do a meal
Thanks so much! I will suggest it!
Well we survived the visit. It will be some time until the next one, I can tell you that...
Well we survived the visit. It will be some time until the next one, I can tell you that...
May i suggest you write a 'survival guide to family dinners' 
Good idea, I will think on that! 