Come to think of it my brother is quite language orientated, he took a small Japanese course when he went to University (along with his Chemistry course) and really enjoyed it. He seems to like using and finding new words, which can be a pain for me because I feel like I should carry a dictionary constantly. He also likes getting into the languages of where ever we go on holiday and so on.
Yeah that's sort of why I asked here, I thought I'd probably get a better idea from people who actually have AS. Obviously I can't speak for my brother, I don't know how he deals with social occasions but I think we're similar in some respects. I know that I myself over think everything when it comes to social interactions and find it hard to communicated with people - but it took me flunking my A-levels and moving to College to build up confidence to just jump into conversations.
I don't think my brother has quite learnt how to do that yet, he seems to be able to attract people through sarcasm and the cynical side of his sense of humour; which can be quite dark; I think he's worked his way up the social ladder because he started off in halls at Uni friends with some very very nerdy guys that seemed to lack social skills as well and I think he built his way up to being in a relatively good state. I think he also makes friends because he's a nice guy that likes to do things for people, which leaves him to be abused ALOT.
For instance he was the secretary for the Ale Society at his university and when it came to them planning their thing for Freshers week he ended up doing all the work which piled up on him and in the end he got so angry and wound up he gave it all up. When he left and just became a member they advertised for three new members - so obviously he was doing a lot more work than he was meant to.
I don't think he can really read body language or anything though. He's known me 18 years and still he can't read my "leave me alone, I'm doing work" moods. I admit I'm moody and irritable, let's get it out there I'm a *** a lot and some how he's able to annoy me quite easily. It's got to the stage where I close my door, he still knocks and tries to talk to me and I just end up telling him very nicely to leave me alone.
That is true.
I feel like I may have offended or something by posting this topic, but I'm paranoid.
I should probably say now that my brother probably can't read me because I have cyclothymia.
Thanks guys (:
I guess my next question is should I tell him?
I know he's been looking into it a bit because he searched something on google about his headaches and got a load of hits about Autism and ended up reading a Wiki article I think. He came into my room and said that he thought he might have it, but I know that if he's anything like the rest of my family he'll just ignore it. I only got myself checked out because I started getting a bit too strange even for myself.
He seems to be learning how to deal with it, I guess, he gives off warnings he still gets a bit funny - earlier on when we were eating he started getting a bit edgey because my mum started telling him not to light a candle that had gone out because there was obviously a reason why it went out. He can't let things lie so he did it and it went out and he insisted that it had nothing to do with what she said... sort of sparked into a bit of a tense moment. But he seems to be able to get over things now and even apologise, which used to be rare.
I don't know, something tells me to leave it. I think I only posted this out of my own curiosity. He likes to work everything out on his own so maybe I should just let it slide and let him work it out - that way it's his news and he won't feel like I'm trying to push him into a box or something.
Oh My Gosh - I wouldn't suggest involving the authorities - you never know if they are going to act reasonably- a "criminal record" inhibits ones ability to find/keep employment. If no one is getting physically harmed I mean. it also depends on the ages and size of the persons involved - and whether or not a kid was out of line or not.
I would like to mention that people do not need to have any particular diagnosis to have a complicated or inhealthy family situation - I know alot of us can identify with the original post and the scenarios, the same scenarios play out all over the world (alot here in the US) and have nothing to do with aspergers or the spectrum at all. The human condition sometims involves messy situations - sometimes outside counsel can help, sometimes professional assistance is the only way- social worker- (I still don't think the cops will stariten anything out)