I would call her, not AIM. I know it's difficult...but she'd be more likely to give you a positive response.
She wouldn't give me her phone number, lol. Of course I asked casually, and after 2 weeks of knowing her and she was being truthful. And I know I may get a better response but since I likely will get a no either way I'd rather it be on aim.
One rather important thing in chasing the ladies is to know when to quit. There are lots of girls in the world, your situation sounds dire, you might want to just walk away and chalk it up to experience.
You should copy/paste her your entire list of options, it will show her that you really thought it through and couldnt decide which option work
for example
Hi [insert name here]
I wanted to ask you to hang out with me some time but could figure out which of these options would work best
1. Hey I've put in my notice at CFA, so I've done it a year. yay, anyway it was great getting to know you and we should hang out sometime.
2. Hey I put in my notice at CFA, and I was wondering would you go to a movie with me? As I've really enjoyed getting to know you, and I prob won't see you again as I'm moving within the month.
3. Hey, I've really been happy to get to know you. I may seem a bit awkward as I have Asperger's Syndrome, but I was wondering if you would give me a chance and go on a date with me.
4. PLEASE DATE ME! (lol)
which one is the most likely to work in your case??
Personnaly I would find it really cute, and hey what does she have to lose? At the worst she spends 2hours in a cinema with someone that she maybe wont connect with..
She's been working with him for a while now,Im sure she has already guessed he's a bit excentric.
yea you guys are right, f it.
What? No way!! if the worst happens she will say no and if you're prepared for an eventuel refusal, dont get stuck in a lonely rut just because you havent the balls to try, damn if she says no well its her loss.( you deserve better than someone who wont make a 2hour effort to get to know you better)
I recommend asking her out. It's nearly impossible to tell whether someone else likes you or not, even for regular guys. Just go for it.
On the other hand, in your situation I would NEVER have to nerve to ask. But if you can do it, I'd say you should.
Err, not quite BardWolf. I have been dating Keisha, the daughter of someone who used to work in Accounting on 2nd floor.
I am not sure if she wants to travel with me to Idaho, family reunion in June, but she does let me buy her dinner, DC soul food restaurant B Smith ($100 for two), and the beef and brew Hops in Alexandria ($50 for two).
She knows I am serious about finding the right intelligent woman.
She's getting a deal on that one. Basically getting a snotty 16 year old homeschooled girl to date an awkward aspie guy is near impossible. Older girls have more maturity usually.
^ Thats bull.
Older girls are just as egostical and self-loving as girls that are 16. Trust me I am 21. and I have pleny of girl-friends that care only for themselves and have high standards In some sense it's for a good reason. But it can be limiting.
@Guess Who, Lol'd it's about time you find someone.
I guess your right.
I still talk to the girl. It appears her IM behavior had nothing to do with me. Anyway she's still bossy as hell. She spilled a drink and told me to clean it up, while she just stood there and smiled. Which of course I did, I don't know why I do w/e this girl says but I do. I listen to all her stories too but at least she talks.
I still talk to the girl. It appears her IM behavior had nothing to do with me. Anyway she's still bossy as hell. She spilled a drink and told me to clean it up, while she just stood there and smiled. Which of course I did, I don't know why I do w/e this girl says but I do. I listen to all her stories too but at least she talks.
Girls don't like guys they can walk all over, they like challenges. So next time she tells you to do something, don't do it if its going out of your way or if she can do it herself. Its good to be nice and to be helpful but cleaning up her drinks is sending out the wrong impression.
Well, I actually was to helpful at first as I trained her basically. I backed off though. The drink thing was just, she just kinda was being flirty and I did it. We had some fun with that.
Girls know the first minutes after they met you whether or not you're "dating material". Everything is based on first impressions. If she already knows you well and you're not confident about the impression you left, it's better you give up.
My piece of advice: start contacting girls on AIM or MSN. It's much easier to address them when you're shy, they won't notice most of your defects and it gives you time to think before you have to say something. It's my own favorite technique for getting to know girls.
One thing, though... If you do take my advice, make sure you address girls from your own area as long distance relationships are destined to fail.