I would go with the first one... It is the least pushy-sounding. The second one sounds like you might be wanting her to pity you ("I prob won't see you again as I'm moving within the month") and the second one sounds a bit desperate ("give me a chance and go on a date with me").
I am for all intents and purposes asexual, but guys try to hit on me all the time anyway. It's especially a major turn-off when they appear to lack any sort of confidence or sound desperate, though. I think the first choice sounds the most confident.
Some girls don't mind shyness in a guy, though.
She wouldn't give me her phone number, lol. Of course I asked casually, and after 2 weeks of knowing her and she was being truthful. And I know I may get a better response but since I likely will get a no either way I'd rather it be on aim.
One rather important thing in chasing the ladies is to know when to quit. There are lots of girls in the world, your situation sounds dire, you might want to just walk away and chalk it up to experience.
Yeah, much as it is a shame to do it, I would suggest giving her a miss. She's said she's not really interested and pushing the issue is likely to lead to an embarrassing rejection and more hurt.
There must be some other nice girls around the place.
5. Take a hint and let her float away like the driftwood she is. Hope she ends up on the other end of the ocean where they speak something else.
I liked a woman at work but I handled it appropriately. I said just about nothing. As far as I would go was on painting your office day was take my digital camera and photograph her painting. She thought it was hilarious. She also posed with me for a photo at one of our award banquets.
I don't really think it was liking her so much as being lonely, though, and she is attractive, intelligent/educated (Master's), personable, and fortunately working somewhere else now. It was really tough after there was a marriage between one manager and an ex-employee: all I could think about was was I wrong not to follow his lead? Once about 30 March last year I actually had a mind's eye view of myself being vulnerable because I was lonely and because she was down the hall: snail or crab came to mind hiding in a shell. She left us in January. She hugged everyone else goodbye but I shok hands, trying to keep emotional distance.
No, Dustin. If a woman like that "likes" you, you know. She volunteers conversation with you freely and is friendly and supportive. I had one of those who was just laid off. She invited me to dinner before she was laid off and now I will try to hold her to that even more strongly than before.
In her case, she handled it well, too. She made it no worse or better, she maintained neutrality and politeness. I reckon she understood she was dealing with a genuinely nice guy who was terribly lonely.
Play "Float On" by Modest Mouse.
My advice:
Give up.
I agree. "No" means "no". There will be other fish in the sea.
How do you know she'll likely say no? Do you get the feeling she's not interested, or has she actually said something to that effect?
I only ask, because sometimes girls/women aren't always aware if a guy is interested, especially if you're quite shy or awkward.
A few years ago I got together in a relationship for a couple of years with a guy who I had been friends with for around five years. When we got together, our other mutual friends were saying things like 'About time, he's fancied you for years!'. Apparently, he was attracted to me from the first time we met (at a friend's party), but I thought he was just a nice, friendly guy, he didn't seem to make an obvious pass at me. So we were good friends for years before finally getting together (and we're still good friends although we've since split up).
I guess the lesson is not to assume that someone will say no (unless they've specifically said something in the past that would lead you to believe that).
You have to ask her Dustin. If nothing else treat it as a learning experience.
You are not a creep. Good on you for asking her - shows courage. My husband never had the courage to ask me out ....
you might feel a bit bad for a time - but you will get through it.
I recommend taking advice from the Nike Corporation, their slogan of "just do it" works on so many levels. Will you get turned down? possibly, but will you learn anything that can be used to your benefit later on? The only way to find out if something can or can't work is to try. I don't know about everybody else here, but my entire life's been a constant game of trial and error. I get turned down all the time, it used to get to me, but now I just look at it as being like a math equation, (movie clichés + explaining that you're a proud aspie = fail, dinner + good conversation = possibility, etc.)
I don't know why my advice is getting ignored. I said he should "give up," and apparently no one is listening.
Oh now that's just silly
you can still be friends surely?
Uh.... don't bother.......
Wook, just wookie here wad, I was in my early twenties too and people told me to leave a lady alone that didn't feel the same way.
Is it hard to find a lady that feels the same way, yeah...... we seem to be radar invisible to a lot of NTs
But when you do, it will be like the fight scenes in the superheros when the superhero wins