So anyway a new girl started working at the job I hate so much and i being the way I am helped her out and she caught on very quick. (way quicker than I did), anyway she was fairly friendly to me and I got to know her somewhat. It seems like the girl is way into herself though, but she has a few things in common with me such as being homeschooled as well. Anyway I have a big crush on her so I decided to add her to my facebook, then AIM list. Which went ok, wasn't a lot to say on AIM. So anyway I am wondering how do you move onto the next step, beyond just getting to know someone in this situation? I typically turn girls off at this step as they think I'm to needy or something which is typical for Aspie guys. Also it's hard to even see her as the manager likes to schedule me with people that I don't like, not people who I do. (well not really but it feels that way sometimes). Also I'm quiting the stupid job in a month but I still want to get to know her better. Any tips?
Dust
Work relationships are the suck
I agree, but when your homeschooled you don't have much choice.
Well I'd say to ask her if she'd like to go out for a coffee or something sometime. Then she would know you are interested in 'that way' and you can know if she is interested. It is a sort of casual date, not like asking her out for dinner and a movie, so if she turns you down you save face. Friends go out for coffee too so its not such a big deal. Do it on IM its much easier. I have asked guys out this way. Have a few questions ready to get the conversation going, sounds like she likes talking about herself (not necessarily a bad thing maybe she's just chatty and fun). And think of a few things you would like to share about you, her response will help you establish if she is the right sort of girl for you. Good luck.
Well I hear that so many times and it's true besides I hate coffee and I live in the country. No one gets coffee down here, but it's an idea. One issue I see is that she doesn't drive yet as she's 16 so that would make it rather awkward. I don't have my own car either but I just can drive my parents or w/e. I do want to get to know her better but I'll prob wait till I quit the job to ask actually.
I hear ya man, we just have to find that special girl who likes us and can help us but at the same time understands us. that's not everyone.
I have to say that I have been fortunate. All of my flames have been NT, and they all valued my heterodox behaviours as a part of me. It can be done. You just have to find more enlightened and open individuals.
Well I asked for her cell number and she said she didn't give it out to people she doesn't know well. Time to move on.
I agree, but when your homeschooled you don't have much choice.
Instant Messaging (AIM, MSN, ...) can be a great way for an Aspie to pick up a girl, but I don't think it works when she already knows you on forehand.
I think with reasonable lack of any doubt, you cans say it's a passing and non universal trend.
Oo what ever that means in practice, often it's a bit of a mystery.
In essence, you're treating NT's like NT's treat us.
Please, be more specific. NT people are not all bad, nor all good. If you want to talk about more specific incidents, have at it. But please do not lump me into a group who treats you in any specific way. I am not just an "NT" I am a person.
At this point I am a person who is a bit ill from reading your LOTS OF CAPS posts flaming at people all over the site. I am not sure anyone needs that much negativity around here.