Aspies For Freedom

I am a parent of an 18 year old son with AS, ADHD and Dyspraxia.

I also have a dx of AS myself (diagnosed last August).

Are there any other parents who are also on the spectrum?

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There are quite a few of us who are on the spectrum - not all of us have an official diagnosis, such as my husband and myself. Although we have been recognised by the team that diagnosed one of our sons, we felt that making it official would give us no advantage at theis stage of our lives, and possibly/probably could cause problems with officialdom.

We come from generations of 'eccentrics' and didn't notice anything odd about our own children until it was pointed out to us by others. We thought it was the other people who were odd!

There's also cases where the children will be diagnosed with autism, and then upon reseaching it the parents will find that they have some sort of autism/BAP

We are a family of three Aspies, mom, dad, and daughter going into kindergarten.

Yep.
Me - dx'ed, my wife - Aspie without dx,
children: Aspie, ADHD, NT, Autie

The first one to get dx'ed was our youngest!

Me too! I have a newborn baby boy!

Congratulations!

Congratulations!

Congrats!

My hubby has just been diagnosed AS, throw me in the NT category, and we have a beautiful 8 year old little girl who I think could fall on the spectrum somewhere, but we are not tackling that quite yet

We hope to pop out another one within two years, if all goes as planned.

Took a big step talking with my mother when we visited last week. We were talking privately about her grandchildren, one of my sister's is now officially diagnosed AS and my three who've been identified by the school system.  I told her that I was probably on the spectrum as well.  She immediately asserted that I was not, but I reminded her of a few things about my childhood -- one or two sentences. She stopped protesting, but didn't come right out and agree. She just got this odd, startled sort of look on her face, almost a look of recognition. It was interesting to me that she could travel from denial to seriously considering the possibility in about a minute. Not sure why I brought it up. Maybe it is a first step toward helping her embrace her spectrum side -- which definitely exists.  Don't know whether she would ever be able to admit it, though.

You're a big step ahead of me! Please let me/us know how it works out in the end. Until now, I cannot convince myself to raise this issue with my parents (69, 66).

I guess a lot of mothers might feel troubled by such relevations, as though it's some implied criticism of them, for giving birth to a 'defective' not-perfect child or something?

No. She's not like that. I think it is more just a matter of not being inclined to rearrange the world that she knows.

I was just wondering if what you said to her made her see not only your childhood, but her own childhood in a different light?  That's the thought that struck me when I read about her "odd, startled look" and the almost recognition.  Maybe something really struck a chord with her?

Hope things continue to go well.   I'm in a similar position, but my parents are still in denial about my son.  I'm just going to take this slowly, and an official dx will definately be helpful.