I am a parent of an 18 year old son with AS, ADHD and Dyspraxia.
I also have a dx of AS myself (diagnosed last August).
Are there any other parents who are also on the spectrum?
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There are quite a few of us who are on the spectrum - not all of us have an official diagnosis, such as my husband and myself. Although we have been recognised by the team that diagnosed one of our sons, we felt that making it official would give us no advantage at theis stage of our lives, and possibly/probably could cause problems with officialdom.
We come from generations of 'eccentrics' and didn't notice anything odd about our own children until it was pointed out to us by others. We thought it was the other people who were odd!
We come from generations of 'eccentrics' and didn't notice anything odd about our own children until it was pointed out to us by others. We thought it was the other people who were odd!
There's also cases where the children will be diagnosed with autism, and then upon reseaching it the parents will find that they have some sort of autism/BAP
We are a family of three Aspies, mom, dad, and daughter going into kindergarten.
Yep.
Me - dx'ed, my wife - Aspie without dx,
children: Aspie, ADHD, NT, Autie
The first one to get dx'ed was our youngest!
Me too! I have a newborn baby boy!
Me too! I have a newborn baby boy!
Congratulations!
Me too! I have a newborn baby boy!
Congrats!
Took a big step talking with my mother when we visited last week. We were talking privately about her grandchildren, one of my sister's is now officially diagnosed AS and my three who've been identified by the school system. I told her that I was probably on the spectrum as well. She immediately asserted that I was not, but I reminded her of a few things about my childhood -- one or two sentences. She stopped protesting, but didn't come right out and agree. She just got this odd, startled sort of look on her face, almost a look of recognition. It was interesting to me that she could travel from denial to seriously considering the possibility in about a minute. Not sure why I brought it up. Maybe it is a first step toward helping her embrace her spectrum side -- which definitely exists. Don't know whether she would ever be able to admit it, though.
Took a big step talking with my mother when we visited last week. ... I reminded her of a few things about my childhood -- one or two sentences. She stopped protesting, but didn't come right out and agree.
You're a big step ahead of me! Please let me/us know how it works out in the end. Until now, I cannot convince myself to raise this issue with my parents (69, 66).
Took a big step talking with my mother when we visited last week. We were talking privately about her grandchildren, one of my sister's is now officially diagnosed AS and my three who've been identified by the school system. I told her that I was probably on the spectrum as well. She immediately asserted that I was not, but I reminded her of a few things about my childhood -- one or two sentences. She stopped protesting, but didn't come right out and agree. She just got this odd, startled sort of look on her face, almost a look of recognition. It was interesting to me that she could travel from denial to seriously considering the possibility in about a minute. Not sure why I brought it up. Maybe it is a first step toward helping her embrace her spectrum side -- which definitely exists. Don't know whether she would ever be able to admit it, though.
I guess a lot of mothers might feel troubled by such relevations, as though it's some implied criticism of them, for giving birth to a 'defective' not-perfect child or something?
Took a big step talking with my mother when we visited last week. We were talking privately about her grandchildren, one of my sister's is now officially diagnosed AS and my three who've been identified by the school system. I told her that I was probably on the spectrum as well. She immediately asserted that I was not, but I reminded her of a few things about my childhood -- one or two sentences. She stopped protesting, but didn't come right out and agree. She just got this odd, startled sort of look on her face, almost a look of recognition. It was interesting to me that she could travel from denial to seriously considering the possibility in about a minute. Not sure why I brought it up. Maybe it is a first step toward helping her embrace her spectrum side -- which definitely exists. Don't know whether she would ever be able to admit it, though.
I guess a lot of mothers might feel troubled by such relevations, as though it's some implied criticism of them, for giving birth to a 'defective' not-perfect child or something?
No. She's not like that. I think it is more just a matter of not being inclined to rearrange the world that she knows.
My dad is on the spectrum (not dx'd), and I am too (dx'd).
When I gave my mom something to read about asperger/asd she immediately recognised my dad and my middle brother aswell.
I'm diagnosed, after that my daughter got her label (brrr). My husband did not validate his dx, because of the BS written in it. He does see himself as on the spectrum.
We did never think our kid was strange.
When I gave my mom something to read about asperger/asd she immediately recognised my dad and my middle brother aswell.
I'm diagnosed, after that my daughter got her label (brrr). My husband did not validate his dx, because of the BS written in it. He does see himself as on the spectrum.
We did never think our kid was strange.
Yeah, that's one reason why I probably wasn't diagnosed until I was 10 - my dad would keep saying, "but I was exactly the same way at her age". 