Jody and Emilia came to Autscape 2006, so I met them over there.
They are very nice people. I'm glad they wrote a book and I'm glad the Seattle Times published this article about them.
When I first read this article, I thought "Vancouver? but isn't that in Canada?" But then I realised there is another, smaller Vancouver, in the state of Washington, in the USA.
First thing I done when reading this thread's title was looked at my wedding ring, looked at my son and said "duh". I firmly believe that autistic/autistic relationships work better than autistic/NT relationships but give my full blessing to any happy autistic/NT couples who make it work.
Yeah I had a "duh" moment when I first saw the article but its still a nice story. Any relationship can work as long as you have an understanding of each other.
First thing I done when reading this thread's title was looked at my wedding ring, looked at my son and said "duh". I firmly believe that autistic/autistic relationships work better than autistic/NT relationships but give my full blessing to any happy autistic/NT couples who make it work.
I firmly believe that autistic/autistic relationships work better than autistic/NT relationships
Also 'autistic/attention deficit disorder' and 'autistic/social anxiery disorder' relationships work better than 'autistic/NT' relationships. (but of course, autistic/autistic relationships are the best).
Why is it an issue to have a NT/ASD relationship? I can understand maybe because there is a different way of thinking but why would that interfer with a relationship? I wouldnt think it would be too major an issue. I have a friend NT who is married to someone with AS and theyve been together for a long time. I think it you love someone you can work around your differences. If someone could explain why they think its not a good idea I would appreciate it
I'm AS. My husband is NT. 5 years and growing stronger by the minute.
AS/AS couple here (started 1992, 2 kids). But I doubt the term "romance" is accurate. At least not the "pink and fluffy" version.
My husband and I are both NT - together since 1996 . Yikes that makes me feel old, and add that to me turning 30 this year
We have two sons
My husband and I are both NT - together since 1996 . Yikes that makes me feel old, and add that to me turning 30 this year
Awwwwwww, together since age 18. It makes sense for NTs..... finding one another in 30s or 40s if at all is the norm in Aspie Land.
Perhaps it is too terribly rare for Aspie and NT to have a relationship.
I am a Masters in sociology as well as a Web designer.
I used to think "nonverbal communication --> NT prejudice against Aspies nerds or geeks" but now I think maybe there is an underlying psychic communication at the neurological level, purely of my experience and those of people I know.
It seems striking that I do not seem to attract the romantic attention of NT female acquaintances, friends, or other associates even when matched on certain variables such as intelligence, formal education, formal education (Protestant Christianity), occupational status, and income
When I do attract a woman's romantic attention, the only variable that makes sense is her neurodiversity.
Bipolar disorder (2)
Asperger (1)
Psychiatric/anger management/not further described (1)
Other variables that seem to correlate seem to be living with parents or in a group home, having no job or receiving disability benefits, having no license car or both, and the fact that I dated these women after I had a car of my own. I dated one without having a job of my own (we were late 20s), but dated two, and may date the other, while being in my career (we were mid to late 30s, the pace may be picking up with age as the women get older).
AS/NT is an issue in the same way black/white is an issue: You think differently; there's a culture gap to overcome. Naturally any two people think differently, but between races and neurotypes there are more differences, on average.
It takes more effort. But love is worth working on.
Maybe AS/NT can actually be a benefit: You're more aware that there are differences, and thus have made a conscious choice to bridge the gap.
Awwwwwww, together since age 18. It makes sense for NTs..... finding one another in 30s or 40s if at all is the norm in Aspie Land.
Thought about that when people argued that autism had something to do with genetic mutations in the sperm of old men.
I think an NT-aspie relationship can work just as well as aspie-aspie relationship--just in a different way.
On a purely practical level...
NTs and aspies have different skills and so we can compensate for each others failings.
The theory then is to learn how to drive, get a job, get access to a car, and then women with neurodiversities will be able to "marry up", I guess.
I hate to use the term "marry up", but by now it should be obvious in the United States that neurodiversity and life disadvantages are very significantly socially correlated. If a fortunate man (or woman) can sometimes be rescued by a good VR program, maybe a fortunate woman (or man) can also be rescued in marriage as well.