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Hi,

I was hoping to go to Vancouver (from England) around September. I was supposed to be going with a 'friend' to visit a real friend of ours that has moved out to Kelowna.

I've been open with this 'friend' about my spectrum issues and even emailed him information about it. He seemed really happy to go with me.
I was the only one who ever did any research as to prices, airlines, dirving permits etc.

Although he and I have only been friends for a few months, he has confided in me about things - mainly his angst over the various girls he likes-  on one occasion I was stuck at his house until 2am listening to him agonising over all the various girls he like, and doing my best to be understandnig.

Anyway, a couple of weeks later it seemed like another person who I had known for a few years had started ignoring me. I was quite upset and sent my 'friend' a text saying I was feeling a bit isolated as I was always worried my friends would stop wanting to know me.

He got quite angry about this and said that it was not respectful for me to send him this text (even though I send a similar text to 2 other friends who were really nice about it and didn't feel that I'd crossed any boundaries or anything).

And this 'friend' is now not willing to go to Canada with me.

I don't know what to do.
I really want to go and would like to emigrate there one day but I can't go on a holiday without support and don't know how to arrange this. Does anyone have any ideas?
Are there any autism support organisations in Canada that I could contact for advice?
Could I hire a carer / PA for some of my time there?

I would really appreciate advice. I really want to travel and am getting increasingly frustrated by the fact that because of my AS and learning difficulties it is made pretty much impossible for me.

Could anyone help me?
Sounds like he was never a true friend, Anya, AND he also sounds self-absorbed to me.

Surely someone here on AFF will know of someone in Vancouver to meet you at your plane.

Post again with what sort of help you would need once you landed in Vancouver. Your sensory issues, budget, that kind of thing.

There might be a local AS group also so google AS support group and Vancouver and see what comes up. Good luck!

Ellen
Thanks Ellen Smile
I'm meant to be spending a semester in Vancouver alien... let me know when if you want a coffee when you're there Smile
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