Aspies For Freedom

Aeolienne Wrote:

Can I ask a new question... Why do women complain about men not phoning? If you want to speak to someone that badly why not phone him?

If only that sentiment was shared by the NT women, there would be a whole lot of love going on lol

It's one of our pet peeves (As an NT guy).

Pakrat Wrote:

Somebody told me that if a woman is quite attractive but just has one little thing "wrong" with her eg. she's a little bit plump, her hair's a bit untidy, etc. that means guys will automatically dismiss her.

I'd like to know why a woman would say that to another woman and expect them to believe it?

If the woman who said it was single, i'd maybe wonder if she kept getting knock backs and had to blame it on men being too picky than face up to being a bitch.

If she wasn't single, I'd put it down to her being a bitch!

Pakrat Wrote:

Somebody told me that if a woman is quite attractive but just has one little thing "wrong" with her eg. she's a little bit plump, her hair's a bit untidy, etc. that means guys will automatically dismiss her.

I'd like to know why a woman would say that to another woman and expect them to believe it?

I think that TV, movies, and magazines are largely responsible for that idea. A lot of women and girls pick up on the idea that they have to be look perfect in order to be valued by a guy. They may not even realize how much they believe it, but it gets reinforced every day if you have much exposure to those media.

It could also be that the woman who said it is taking her experience from trying to meet guys in bars or any other social situation where lots of strangers come together and try to decide who they want to meet based largely on looks and dress.

idassister

aliengirl Wrote:

Hi,

I thought it would be good to have a thread where we can say things about society we don't understand and people who do understand them can explain it to us. Then the next person will post something they don't understand and so on.

These are the main things confusing me at the moment:

Why do some people always dress in a very revealing way?
Why do people in relationships want to live together - doesn't it get annoying having someone in your face all the time and having your every move, behaviour and word scrutinised?
Why do people have children?

Would appreciate any ideas / answers to help me understand these things. Thanks.

1. Sex. Unfortunately.
2. Sex.
3. Continuation. Sex is an evolutionary compulsion.

Sorry to be succinct and rational about it. Smile

Simen Wrote:

Wondering1 Wrote:

aliengirl Wrote:

Hi,

I thought it would be good to have a thread where we can say things about society we don't understand and people who do understand them can explain it to us. Then the next person will post something they don't understand and so on.

These are the main things confusing me at the moment:

Why do some people always dress in a very revealing way?
Why do people in relationships want to live together - doesn't it get annoying having someone in your face all the time and having your every move, behaviour and word scrutinised?
Why do people have children?

Would appreciate any ideas / answers to help me understand these things. Thanks.

1. Sex. Unfortunately.
2. Sex.
3. Continuation. Sex is an evolutionary compulsion.

Sorry to be succinct and rational about it. Smile

You are confusing the means and the end. In evolutionary terms, all that matters is having lots of children who grow up and have lots of children. But to have lots of children, and see them off into adulthood safely, you need incentives. That's why we evolved to enjoy sex, but also why there is such a thing as love, and why there are chemical stimuli that incite people to stay together and take care of their kids and have more kids (which they, of course, don't have to to have sex nowadays, with modern prevention methods).

There's nothing particularly rational about reducing it all to sex (even if you put in a smiley!)

Hmmm...have you read The Selfish Gene? Pretty much contravenes all of the above, bar evolving to enjoy sex. Monogamy isn't natural.

Zachrates

Marcia

idassister

Wondering1

Wondering1