I feel like that about half the time.
Sometimes you can ask questions here and people actually explain things. --not like other places where people laugh at me.
I don't know what is going on a lot of the time and I don't understand how TR means Tue and Thu.
And I noticed resentment (not so much in response to my posts but with certain private and offsite messages I received), apparently because I have a fairly high level of function (i.e. working, driving, etc.) It's hard for me to understand...it's not like I'm the only one, and I didn't ask to be on the high-functioning end of things any more than I asked to have Asperger's in the first place - that's just how it happened. I can't help but feel angry and hurt when people belittle me, and even tell me that I'm not really an Aspie and that I'm "full of ----" because of the things I struggled very hard to accomplish. Maybe it's just an excuse for people to unload their bitterness onto me for some reason, I don't know. Maybe I'm easy to pick on because I'm new.
Okay, sorry, that had really been bothering me and this seemed like an appropriate place to get it off my chest...
Did you get mean PM's.
I had the same thing happen when I arrived - much along the same sort lines - based on things I struggled very hard to achieve. I think it was related to being new and being female.
I’ve been offline a lot recently and am having trouble reintegrating.
I feel very ‘out of it’…like I went away on holiday--returned home, only to find someone had redecorated the house in my absence.
Its a strange feeling.
I almost never know what goes on, either online or off.
You're one of the lucky ones then.
I’ve been offline a lot recently and am having trouble reintegrating.
I feel very ‘out of it’…like I went away on holiday--returned home, only to find someone had redecorated the house in my absence.
Its a strange feeling.
Exactly my experience, QD! Thanks for starting this thread, silky! It's good to know we are not alone in our confusion and (in my case) disorientation. I can't quote everyone here, but Yes, I have been aware of some controversy, read the thread, and STILL didn't get it, or just could never find the relevant thread. I felt like I was part of a community, but then I went away for ten weeks (drummed out, really, it's not like it was voluntary, yeah, I was part of a bizarre controversy, where even though I was right in the middle of it, I still, STILL did not know what was going on!) Now I just can't seem to get back in, and find myself spending less and less time here, which is not what I want at all.
I’ve been involved in some pretty bizarre and controversy stuff myself recently. I’ve been upsetting people left, right and centre--and I can’t honestly say I know what’s going on. Something has changed--perhaps its me. I feel weary, confused and very disorientated; and have started to wonder if I’m only coming here out of habit--not because I actually belong. I’m not getting anything positive out of the experience and find I want to be here less and less. Every time I log on there seems to another reason not to be here.
You aren't and weren't getting anything out of your friends here posting posts and PM supporting you and your right here? Meant nothing to you? That is rather sad.
Luv ya, Ducky!
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Seriously, sometimes I don't know what the hell is going on, especially when two people I like start flaming each other and then it's like.... "Wha...?!"
But something I found (esp. on other fora) is people rarely say bad stuff because they genuinely really truly don't like you. (this being the generic "you" not anyone in particular at all.) and that most real tensions are very temporary.
Occasionally only done in jest.
So yes it is upsetting when someone who you thought was your "friend" says something you may perceive as nasty, but generally the best course is to see what happens with time.
The day you take something seriously Quickduck, will be the day Satan gets his job upstairs back.
Take that as a compliment if you wish.
As I said, I am virtually Zorg in terms of my style of capitalism and sense of humour, QD.
My friends don't seem to want it any other way =p
Oh no. I love you Pakrat and this place would not be much of a forum without you. **Big Hugs from Grumpy Rossco****
I know what you mean. I am usually clueless to this type of thing, unless it involves direct insults or some such, something I don't often see here, with few exceptions. Most of the time the problems seem to come from misunderstanding each other's words, and/or having differing opinions and/or perceiving insults from the other.
I think a lot of it is in PMs that doesn't get posted on the forum, but IRL I have had a similar obliviousness to the conflicts between people, such as when I find out one day that two friends of mine haven't been willfully interacting with each other for a few months. I don't usually ask about cause. I just figure I'll let them work things out as they wish, and it's not much of any of my business.
And also the main way I identify posters is by the avatar or images / short quotes in signature - so a lot of times I don't know their screennames until I look at it, and I associate them with the pictures, which gives me a much better picture now of being able to visualize my concept of a poster, though at first it was pretty hectic, since I was connecting the names of some posters to the attributes of other posters.