Aspies For Freedom

I feel like that about half the time.

Sometimes you can ask questions here and people actually explain things. --not like other places where people laugh at me.

I’ve been offline a lot recently and am having trouble reintegrating.

I feel very ‘out of it’…like I went away on holiday--returned home, only to find someone had redecorated the house in my absence.

Its a strange feeling.

I almost never know what goes on, either online or off.

You're one of the lucky ones then.

jewelie Wrote:

quickduck Wrote:

I’ve been offline a lot recently and am having trouble reintegrating.

I feel very ‘out of it’…like I went away on holiday--returned home, only to find someone had redecorated the house in my absence.

Its a strange feeling.

Exactly my experience, QD! Thanks for starting this thread, silky! It's good to know we are not alone in our confusion and (in my case) disorientation. I can't quote everyone here, but Yes, I have been aware of some controversy, read the thread, and STILL didn't get it, or just could never find the relevant thread. I felt like I was part of a community, but then I went away for ten weeks (drummed out, really, it's not like it was voluntary, yeah, I was part of a bizarre controversy, where even though I was right in the middle of it, I still, STILL did not know what was going on!) Now I just can't seem to get back in, and find myself spending less and less time here, which is not what I want at all.

I’ve been involved in some pretty bizarre and controversy stuff myself recently. I’ve been upsetting people left, right and centre--and I can’t honestly say I know what’s going on. Something has changed--perhaps its me. I feel weary, confused and very disorientated; and have started to wonder if I’m only coming here out of habit--not because I actually belong. I’m not getting anything positive out of the experience and find I want to be here less and less. Every time I log on there seems to another reason not to be here.

You aren't and weren't getting anything out of your friends here posting posts and PM supporting you and your right here? Meant nothing to you? That is rather sad.

rossco Wrote:

You aren't and weren't getting anything out of your friends here posting posts and PM supporting you and your right here? Meant nothing to you? That is rather sad.

The posts and PM from my friends mean the world too me; in fact they're the only reason I’m still here.

Thanks Rossco…the support you, WFM, Tenaciouscj, Mahler5 etc have given me has been selfless and very kind--I’m sorry if I looked ungrateful.

Mahler5 Wrote:

woman from mars Wrote:

quickduck Wrote:

I’ve been involved in some pretty bizarre and controversy stuff myself recently. I’ve been upsetting people left, right and centre--and I can’t honestly say I know what’s going on. Something has changed--perhaps its me. I feel weary, confused and very disorientated; and have started to wonder if I’m only coming here out of habit--not because I actually belong. I’m not getting anything positive out of the experience and find I want to be here less and less. Every time I log on there seems to another reason not to be here.

quickduck, you know that you are a very well liked person here, I could put many links to this effect but I don't think that it's necessary.

You have recently gone through a really horrible on and off line experience, one that many people would have found very hard to deal with. Throughout all of it you were honest, brave and behaved with integrity.

This is a horrible time of year, cold, miserable & gloomy not much sunshine etc. We all also live real lives which impact upon our feelings.
How about spending a bit more time in the fun threads instead of places that you feel are making life difficult for you?
Hopefully you might find that you start feeling like your usual self. Smile

WfM-you write so well and I agree. Smile
You are wise, positive, have lots of integrity and you are well liked here too.
Resilient comes to mind as well Smile

Thanks WFM and Mahler5--good advice.
I don’t like the person I’ve become recently; and I don’t think anyone else likes him either.
Fun threads = fun duck.

From now on I'm going to relax...

And dedicate myself to the seeking of fun and laughs. Big Grin

Pakrat Wrote:

Thinking about it for a while, I've come to the conclusion that your older friends might have felt a little neglected. Whether this is a correct assessment, I can't be 100% sure, but that could be why some people got a bit cross.

You’re probably correct Pakrat…
I made a couple of very good friends--but instead of stopping I tried to make more; but the demands on my time became so excessive that I started to neglect older friends in order to ‘solid up’ newer friendships.

This was a mistake…
I’m not good at keeping in contact with people at the best of times; and it takes me a long time to respond properly to anyone. I want to be friends with everyone--but in purely practical terms this is impossible.

Its understandable that my older friends might feel sidelined and upset.

nyanchan Wrote:

Luv ya, Ducky!
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Seriously, sometimes I don't know what the hell is going on, especially when two people I like start flaming each other and then it's like.... "Wha...?!"

But something I found (esp. on other fora) is people rarely say bad stuff because they genuinely really truly don't like you. (this being the generic "you" not anyone in particular at all.) and that most real tensions are very temporary.

Occasionally only done in jest.

So yes it is upsetting when someone who you thought was your "friend" says something you may perceive as nasty, but generally the best course is to see what happens with time.

Luv ya too nyanchan!

I think in many ways I’ve been treating the forum too seriously--taking stuff too personally--and getting involved in arguments I had no right getting involved in.
This made me loose heart a little…

I notice you usually have the good sense to steer clear of controversy--you’re very wise to do so.

If I upset someone I see them being upset as a permanent state of affairs--when in fact…as you say… “most real tensions are very temporary”.

Ian Wrote:

The day you take something seriously Quickduck, will be the day Satan gets his job upstairs back.

Take that as a compliment if you wish.

Sometime passion, gusto and laughter are what's needed...rather than an serious analytical approach.

A sense of humour is the best way to make and keep friends. Smile

Oh no. I love you Pakrat and this place would not be much of a forum without you. **Big Hugs from Grumpy Rossco****

Pakrat Wrote:

Well, a couple of months or so ago, I began to feel as if I were very much "yesterday's person", as if the new friends were more interesting than I ever could have been and therefore of more importance. Something has certainly been lost and I don't know if it will come back. Sad

You could never be ‘yesterday’s person’…
Nobody has been a better and more enduring friend than you Pakrat.
You are very important too me. Smile

Me too.

Earthmonkey - I do that too!

I was dreadfully confused for a while, when I didn't realise the orange cat was a generic avatar pic, and thought GuessWho, EricC and another chap whose name escapes me (sorry, whoever you are!) were all the same person. *hangs head*

Duck, you made a really good point about just not buying into arguments. I should learn from that, and hopefully one day I will...

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