I can't believe someone would say the state was correct for wanting to do that. That is just horrible and upsetting. I know when I was pregnant with my son he had coreplexus cysts in his brain (2 of them) and the hospital asked me a few times If I wanted to terminate the pregnancy. I told them no although I often wonder if that is why he is on the spectrum . Although, if the doctor was able to tell me he would have been autistic I would have still given the same response.
It is correct for the state to stop disabled children being born because it will be the state and the tax payer that will pick the bill up to support that child throughout his life.
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Thinking like that, a person might as well say "We're going to give lethal injections to everyone when they reach retirement age, so that their social security money may be better spent elsewhere."
Yeah, of course there are people who will abuse the system and claim disability when they're actually fully capable of working. But people will abuse any helpful thing that comes along.
That's really some sick, selfish thinking.
I agree with Bella. Some people are cruel because they don't know any better about what we are... others are just cruel because they are nasty people.
Just be you, and be happy to be you.
Well, one of my ideas would to retaliate with insults like this:
"You know what? NT's were invented by us to make a better quarry other than boar."
I think I preferred phoning someone and calling them an asshat.
Alien... you must never feel like that, Aspie or NT. We're all different and all contribute different things; I just followed my partner around the flat talking about St Kilda then astromony (two special interests of mine - well astromony was from when I was about 14) then I stopped mid-sentence and said "I'm being really Aspergers aren't I?". She just smiled and said "but what you're saying is interesting, its interesting that you know so much about these things".
I usually feel like a waste of space because I can't make eye contact with people
and talk about things I'm interested in - its this weird thing that NT people seem so able to do but with me I can't. To me I don't need to see people to tell them stuff. When I make eye contact with people I'm trying to work them out (and I'm so aware of the possibility that they find me dull) so it throws me off track. I have to remind myself sometimes, especially in a tutorial, that what I'm saying is valid. And sometimes I have to train myself to bite my tongue - I've referred to 'stupid lipgloss b*tches' so many times in lecture halls
Maybe its because I'm 24 and I'm more willing to be called an uppity ar*ehole than I was at 14 - there's probably a certain degree of learning to not give a toss that takes years of personal hardship to grow. The way I tend to look at life now is that some people love me, some people hate me and most people are indifferent to me. And thats the way I am with the rest of the world - I tend to call a spade a spade so sometimes people think I dislike
them and not their opinion or aspects of their behaviour. I don't intentionally try to hurt or offend others for the most part but some people just want to get a reaction out of you. I still sometimes land myself into those traps because I can't bear to look stupid. Some people who mouth off will never see you again, so ignore them. A girl in my class who has a physical disability started talking to me after I posted on one university forum that I'd gotten bullied in first year - one of the things she said in an email was that sometimes she thought it would be nice to be popular, but then none of these people will stay in contact or be as good friends when they leave university. Its all for show, none of these people
really like each other, they're drinking/flirting/b*tching buddies. At least I know that the friends I have really do like me, and I do really like them.
She also said that she thought people with disabilities didn't play the social game as well because generally they tend to internalise feelings of not being 'worth' it - especially younger people who don't have age to thicken the skin. There's an older blind woman in one of my law classes who is so vocal and so knows her stuff - like, she can just come out with relevant sections and subsections of blah blah Act 1974... I think her age plays a part in that confidence too though.
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I'm struggling to cope with the fact that there are people out there who seem to hate the disabled.
Hello
Im new here-my son has high functioning autism and my husband is a depressive, with autistic tendancies.
I cannot belive what ive just read-right now im feeling saddened as there are ppl out in this country who would actually feel this opposed to disability.
They obviously have never been around a person who has personal or social difficulties-they have never seen the state a child can be in because he cant understand how to play pass the parcel-or the state a man can be in because he is frightened to go outside.
I feel sorry for the ppl whom feel it is necesary to write such rubbish they are indeed the most ignorant misinformed and uneducated.
Hello Mrs and welcome
try and get your husband to post here. It may help him. It helped me
I came here whilst waiting for my diagnosis and it really made me more comfortable in being what I am. When I first recognised I had AS I sat down and cried and cried and cried - became extremely depressed and spoke a lot about suicide because I knew there was absolutely no chance I could ever be 'normal'. Like your husband I came to AS from being clinically depressed and then being told a relation was on the spectrum - I became obsessed with everything to do with autism and had to research it. And thats when I hit on it. But hey, it happens. I suppose we're different by nature and better by nuture
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Hello Mrs and welcome
Hello, thankyou for the welcome-i will mention it to him-maybe he'd like to join up for a bit of understanding, [font=Courier][size=medium][color=green]
The way I see it, the more you know about yourself, the better you'll be able to handle what life throws at you...
yeah thats so true callista
lee has been told that its too late in the day for any diagnosis (by a psychiatrist!!)-but i said last night that its a load of b*****ks-there are centers that diagnose adults.
He knows so much about so many things-yet finds it difficult to get motivated, which is a real shame because he can fix anything and do almost anything. his concentration is off most days and it takes a real effort to even get off the setee-this is accompanied by panic attacks that can last a few hours-you tell ppl, and it feels as tho u got the idea for the panic attacks from a cerial box !!!!!!
Hes a wonderfull man-makes me so happy-its hard to see him suicidal, tiered, depressed and p****d off. How can we ever replicate those images to someone that never sees a life falling apart for someone whos close to them.
sarah
Whereabouts in the country do you live Mrs?
Whereabouts in the country do you live Mrs?
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Have you tried asking NAS for adult referrals? His GP should do it too.
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"I'm being really Aspergers aren't I?". She just smiled and said "but what you're saying is interesting, its interesting that you know so much about these things".
Ahhh bless her she sounds like me with my hubbs he'll say " Hmm its just stuff" he amazes me none the less-the talented liccle bu*ger he is
Its good that you encourage him though. It sounds like he needs it. And definitely get him to talk to the GP - they can't not refer you if there's reasonable grounds for it, and with his son on the spectrum there's a family/genetic link that he has the right to explore.
Its good that you encourage him though. It sounds like he needs it. And definitely get him to talk to the GP - they can't not refer you if there's reasonable grounds for it, and with his son on the spectrum there's a family/genetic link that he has the right to explore.
even at school he was disgarded-school did it a lot and if he asked for an explaination of..say algebra..they used to think he was taking the p*ss and send him outa the class-how wrong were our school ( and this was in the mid 90's )
he really does amaze me tho-he knows about electronics, computers, mechanics, fitting carpets, r/c cars, he can build something from scratch like bird tables and cabinets, he rescues reptiles and has his half vetinary papers, he is an amazing tattooist and is amazing at air brushing and can airbrush anything at all he can fix almost anything,
he just cant do it most times
His outlet is fishing-his real true hobby which calms him and eases any sort of negitivity-and im so glad he has that.