I to have had this problem but my girlfriend had yet to tell me. I have accidentally seen a message that she had typed and has been talking to a married man. She has autism on a mild side. It was all about what his dream was about her and how he would like to do it with her. So yes I do believe that it is being unfaithful. I'm in a simular boat as we have twin daughters of 2 years old and it its hard to know what to do, so I feel for you. I am waiting for her to tell me as she has to be able to admit this to me in order for us to work this out. Like many others we know when there is something going on and takes a lot for someone to come clean if they truely love there partner they have to. Yes the partner will be upset but they may have an idea anyway so honesty is the best policy. I think most people know when there partner is spending a lot of time on the computer that something is not right. I will be able I hope like you to work this out but feel that until she comes clean we will be unable to be a 'normal couple'. I hope things work out for you. I know how you feel and yes it is confusing, but will will get there brown beard.
A single friend of mine has been flurting with a married guy on this site and yes they have discussed sex. I have told her not to get involved but has taken no notice of me. Thanks to a very kind lady I know here I now have his address. I have print outs of what she has shown me that they have both written this was posted at the weekend for his wife. she should know as I doubt that he has told her. I know that I am probably in the wrong but after reading your stories I really felt for her. I know I am wrong.
I think bail out from what it sounds like she is manipulating you.
My wife has told me that she had cyber sex with another man. We have been married for 9 years. She said that it is not cheating talking about sex or feelings for another. I think that it is unfaithful and dis loyal to me. They have spoken about turning each other on and winding each other up talking about sex and sex dreams. I have told her to move out, am I being unfair? Sorry I am new to this but feel like no one understands me, feel different to everyone else maybe I am unfair. She said my aut is making me see this unclearly. Is it dis loyal? Be please with your views.
brown beard, I don't think that it's you that's being unfair, I think it's your wife that's being unfair, not only with the cybersex, but having the audacity of turning the argument all around and blaming it on your condition is so cold.
I think if you're going to salvage what kind of relationship you had previous to all this disloyalty, I think you're going to have some serious discussions, possibly with a third party. i.e. Marriage Guidance Counsellor?
Hoping everything gets okay, and wish you all the best.
Caledonia