I think my son's world is full of people who believe in diversity in all forms, which includes nuerodiversity. You won't hear that term, "nuerodiversity," at my son's school or daycare, but every breath, every policy, is about letting people be who they are, and understanding the beauty that diversity in all it's forms brings to the world. My son is perceived as quirky, and as would be true for any child of any type, there are some kids who don't care for him and like to tease him, but there are many more who think he is about the coolest thing to ever walk the earth, because of his amazing ability to create fun new games, to recite scientific knowledge, and invent fantasy stories at the drop of a hat. I thought it was so funny earlier this year when it dawned on me that he literally had groupies! He is being allowed to shine exactly as he is, and I love seeing it. Yes, we all work with him on adapting where necessary to survive in the world, but he himself sees the value in all that. After all, what good is a great invention if you can't create it, express it, or sell it? Like anyone, when he has weaknesses that he feels hold him back, he works on them.
Our afterschool daycare director is a really impressive person. The other day a child who graduated last year came back for a visit, and as she was telling me about it, she also said how sad she was now that he was gone, to no longer have the dyanamic he brought to the children. This child is full on autistic, but became well loved and accepted at daycare. The director misses not only the brightness of his personality, but also the opportunity his pressence gave for other kids to grow in the understanding of what diversity really means. My son, being light Aspie and much closer to normal, doesn't challenge the children in nearly the same way.
I think when you promote diversity in all it's forms, nuerodiversity be nature becomes part of it.
Posted by SoupChef - 01-22-2008 02:42 PM
[NT's who are supportive of neurodiversity
First of all, I apologize for not posting on here since forever.]
Really? Well, OK, I'll admit that an apology is probably appropriate; but why do you imagine we need opinions from stupids like you?
I think when you promote diversity in all it's forms, nuerodiversity be nature becomes part of it.
It is where you live, DW. Much of the world is not like this.
I agree. From conversations I've had on the internet and even in real life, not every area is like this. But it makes you realize that it is possible. Not easy, not accomplished without the desire for it, but possible.
What information?
John Best's "information"?
There are people who are biased against us and wants to present us in a bad way, making generalisations like these.
It really isn't something the neurodiversity community stands for. Infact you will see Amanda Baggs and Callista argue against "aspie elitists" as we call them. If you ask any of the Autism Hub bloggers if the think aspies are have superior mindset, I believe all of them would have said no.
I have relatives who probably support it without using the term and without being aware that's what they're doing. Basically by default they're accepting of most neurological variation (if not some other important things) because there's so much of it in the family.
That's expensive and whyever would you tip 20% when it has already been taxed 10% Surely unless the service was over the top wonderful, 10% tip would have been plenty?
Pakrat, US tipping standard is 15%. On a date it is nice to look a little generous and go for 20%. 10% would be considered an insult to the server. They basically live on the tips here, because the minimum wage for servers is lower than for other jobs, on the assumption they will make it up (or better) in tips.
In Norway they never give tips.
In Norway they never give tips.
But I'm guessing that they also have a halfway decent minimum wage.
When American tourists sometimes asked me (in New Zealand) whether people tip, I would just say "it's not traditional, but it won't offend anyone either."
I always thought it was good of them to take the time to find out.
... people are however shocked by the high prices.
That's expensive and whyever would you tip 20% when it has already been taxed 10% Surely unless the service was over the top wonderful, 10% tip would have been plenty?
Pakrat, US tipping standard is 15%. On a date it is nice to look a little generous and go for 20%. 10% would be considered an insult to the server. They basically live on the tips here, because the minimum wage for servers is lower than for other jobs, on the assumption they will make it up (or better) in tips.
Well, they ought to pay their staff proper wages. It's a disgrace!
It's only fair to give these workers a proper wage. Their jobs are not easy so they deserve to be paid a lot more than what they are.
Usually the migrant workers will do the crappy jobs that no-one else will do. Instead of improving working conditions (which is what should happen) and paying a decent wage, it's all too easy for employers to put on people who are so grateful to be in the US they will do just about anything.
It's not the fault of the migrant workers. The employers should be more strictly regulated by the government to ensure they pay a decent wage to their workers. Having stronger unions would be a definite advantage to workers who are exploited.
I think most people wouldn't object to paying tips if it is explained to them about how low paid the service staff are. All the same, if the staff were rude and/or totally botched up my order and didn't fix it, I would only pay a minimal tip. Bad service shouldn't be rewarded; only good service.
One of my friends wrote on my Facebook profile wall that he is the lucky one to have me as a friend.
Did he share why he was lucky?
Isn't something that appears on FaceBook automatically being shared?
That's expensive and whyever would you tip 20% when it has already been taxed 10% Surely unless the service was over the top wonderful, 10% tip would have been plenty?
Pakrat, US tipping standard is 15%. On a date it is nice to look a little generous and go for 20%. 10% would be considered an insult to the server. They basically live on the tips here, because the minimum wage for servers is lower than for other jobs, on the assumption they will make it up (or better) in tips.
Well, they ought to pay their staff proper wages. It's a disgrace!
I don't think there is anything wrong with considering tradition (like tipping) when figuring pay. A server working in an upsacle restaurant and doing a good job actually makes really good money because of the tips. HOWEVER, it is also important that the establishment KNOW it's employees ARE making enough to live on through tips, and the reality is that more often than not, in the day to day world of smaller restaurants, they are not. That is a disgrace, I agree.
It's easy to say it should be changed, but much more difficult to make that change happen. It is an essential part of US culture to feel that there is incentive and reward for "bettering" yourself. To work in a nicer restaurant, or in a different job altogether. To constantly look for a way up. It has it's pro's and it's con's, to be truthful, but I do not see that core cultural belief as something likely to change in our lifetimes. It is very, very ingrained here.
I think American consumers, as a whole, like the custom of tipping. It gives the consumer some sense that they have a say in how well the person attending to them is paid, and that this relationship helps insure better service. Whether that is true or not I can't say, just that the perception of control in this way is also very ingrained in our culture.
But, I've just realized, it's a rather un-Aspie concept, isn't it? Too wishy washy, touchy-feeling, not very factual.