Aspies For Freedom

I'm the same. What's the point of life if you can't enjoy it? My friends and I were known at school (way back all those months ago when we were at school) for such things as:
singing Happy Birthday to everyone
starting a 'Hug a first year cometition'
wearing silver wigs to class
naming our desks (then having conversations with them)

we also had fun in less noticable ways, but even then you could see how unusual we are. Why do people give you such strange looks for sitting on the pavement, singing campfire songs and laughing at old jokes? Of course, we just gave them strange looks back, and laughed even louder

ericc Wrote:

angelpanda999 Wrote:

I'm the same. What's the point of life if you can't enjoy it? My friends and I were known at school (way back all those months ago when we were at school) for such things as:
singing Happy Birthday to everyone
starting a 'Hug a first year cometition'
wearing silver wigs to class
naming our desks (then having conversations with them)

we also had fun in less noticable ways, but even then you could see how unusual we are. Why do people give you such strange looks for sitting on the pavement, singing campfire songs and laughing at old jokes? Of course, we just gave them strange looks back, and laughed even louder

You still in touch with your friends and still hang out? To me it sounds like you really have some close friends. I got none. Just ones who like talking with me and that's it. TALK TALK TALK not Funny action. I would love to say to them "If you can't make me laugh then your no friends of mine." But I can't, they are the only friends that I have right now. And besides, 3 of them are Aspie and I started a support group in college so I must continue that. Those guys are good friends and all but Asperger's Syndrome is NOT what makes me, me. They're good friends because they understand the stress that I go through in life but they don't enjoy the same passions as I do, do you know what I mean. Everyday I wish to meet those kinds of people to make my life happier, but it's like waiting for something that seems like it'll never come. I just got to wait and see. I tryed praying to the lords but it always seems like my prayers are never answered. Sad

we still meet up as often as we can, but with uni and their jobs, we struggle to get together more than twice a month.
perhap you should start the fun. you might find your friends are more game for a laugh than you think, just too scared to seem weird to let it show. And if they really aren't interested in fun and games then at least other people who are might see that you are too. I didn't realise how fun my friends are until almost 2 years after meeting them. Of course, there is the small risk that seeing the fun loving overgrown child you are inside might scare your friends off, you'll have to decide whether it's a risk worth taking.

Tigger_the_Wing Wrote:

I'm fifty and I haven't grown up yet! (Yes, that is an enormous sequinned bow tie I'm wearing - on top of a mountain. What can I say? Tongue

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Snazzy! I'm also loving the hat

When I was a kid I always felt like I was an old person trapped in a kid's body. I used to watch the other kids laughing and having fun and wish so hard that I could be like that. I was too consumed with fear. Now I am 28yo and I feel totally inadequate as an adult. I think it has something to do with always feeling scattered and not being able to make decisions. But I am pleased I am finally learning how to have fun and be silly as I get older. I will never stop enjoying reading children's literature. Oh and I collect and play with dolls now I suppose that might be considered a little childish, hehe.

ericc Wrote:

angelpanda999 Wrote:

Of course, there is the small risk that seeing the fun loving overgrown child you are inside might scare your friends off, you'll have to decide whether it's a risk worth taking.

I totally see what your saying. But the only problem with my friends is that I'm not 100% confortable with them, I'm only 76% perhaps. First off, I can't say whatever I want to them. I wish I could joke about anything without worrying about hurting people's feelings. I hate watching what I'm saying. My friends can't take jokes on themselves. For example, I might have friends who conform into a certain religand like they take Christianity extremely seriously while I'm also Christian but I can take the worst jokes towards Christianity without being offended. I want to feel free to say what I want no matter how harsh or crude in a joking matter without anyone being offended. I want to act as zanny as possible and do almost anything for a laugh and the same with them. But the thing of the matter is, is they are just not like that. I know that no one is perfect, but even though they are great Aspie friends, like everyone else in my life. They are too serious and sensitive. I used to be sensitive but I toughend up and I feel better then I ever was.

Luckily for me (but unluckily for you, as it means I have no advice for your situation), I've found I seem to attract the sort of people you can feel comfortable saying anything with. And even then it took a long time before I was happy being my whole self with them. I'm sorry, but I have absolutely no idea what I would do in your situation

miss nomer Wrote:

I will never stop enjoying reading children's literature. Oh and I collect and play with dolls now I suppose that might be considered a little childish, hehe.

Oh, me too. my collection of kids books, if piled one on top of the other (which takes a lot of work, by the way) is more than twice my hight. And while I was never interested in dolls, my stuffed animals make it near impossible to see my bedroom floor. (They also made it rather difficult to pile the books up!)

ericc Wrote:

Sorry, I didn't mean to sound stubern or anything. I want to thank you for your advice.

Oh, I didn't mean to sound complaining. I really do wish I could help. I don't know how I would cope if I didn't have people to laugh with. If I ever lose these friends, maybe I'll come to you for advice!

SoccerFreak248 Wrote:

I AM a child

do you have an inner adult?

ericc Wrote:

....It's the feeling that even though I'm 20 years old, I still want to have spontaneous fun in life with friends...

Tigger_the_Wing Wrote:

I'm fifty and I haven't grown up yet! (Yes, that is an enormous sequinned bow tie I'm wearing - on top of a mountain. What can I say? Tongue

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My goal is to move directly from immature to young at heart and just skip the adult thing altogether (and at 54 I must be almost there!)

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P.S. Why not put the link to your videos in your signature? Then, when we need cheering up, we don't have to hunt through the archives... Ta!

I second the motion...all in favor?

ericc Wrote:

I'm starting to reconize that some Aspies still have the inner child or child at heart still with them..........Like me. But it seems like it so rare to see that in this serious boring world of ours. I'm starting to learn the basics on going into adulthood and living on my own, those kind of skills. But sometimes I worry that someone wants to get rid of my inner child. I love people with a strong imagionation, leadership and a strong inner child. People who like to joke around, people who are playful, people who are not afriad to be foolish in front of other people. That takes guts, strong guts and I love people for that.

But like I said, it seems like people are Anti-Fun and whatnot. Don't you agree?

Us Aspies probably do have more of our "inner child" still intact, because we still have our imaginations. Smile Society tells kids to lose a big part of their imaginations early and just conform...since we don't listen to society anyway, we get the prize of keeping ours...

Personally, I wouldn't have it any other way. I get to experience a private, odd, wonderful world in my mind that most NT's don't!

miss nomer Wrote:

Oh and I collect and play with dolls now I suppose that might be considered a little childish, hehe.

Oh no, not at all. I'm a 20 year old man and I play with dolls all the time. I'm a puppeteer. And as of collecting dolls. I'm a Jim Henson Muppet collector. Your not alone. Wink

I guess I can still have fun as an adult, right?

Ethel Wrote:

So now anyone who's not permanently bouncing off the walls having wacky crazy zany fun every moment of the day is automatically some sort of conformist sell-out?

I seem to have missed another memo.

Well, that does sound a bit overwhelming - but you do get an opportunity to get a little silly now again, don't you?

Hey my inner adult works 40 - 45 hours a week Sad , then comes home to do my single parent thang. Luckily, my inner child is 'wacky crazy zany as many moments of the day' as she can mange to squeeze in Tongue . As a result, I survive Cool .

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