Anyone else feel they can't talk about problems with parents because you fear they'll respond with overly negative reactions that seems more like punishment than help?
That's my experience when it comes to my problems with getting homework done.
This is why I don't bother trying to talk to anyone anymore. You just want to talk to someone and they end up giving you a lecture. Or they go around and tell someone else. I hate it.
What bugs me is that parents complain about their rebellious teenagers. So what?? We're learning to think for ourselves and not mindlessly agree with authority. This should be a good thing. So maybe we go overboard with this and make mistakes, but it's better than clinging to mommy's sleeve our whole lives.
My parents have some problems of their own, but yeah, I definitely agree with you, Erkolos. I do sometimes ask them for help because about 40% of the time they actually do or say something helpful- but the other 60% of the time it just starts an argument or they punish me. I haven't been able to find much in the way of a pattern in their responses, either, so it's all guesswork as to which way they'll respond. It's sad, because it means that a lot of the time I will not ask them for help that I need, even though they could provide it, because I don't want to risk being punished.
"Nice" to see that I'm not totally alone with such feelings.
I think this is something specific parents could be better at.
I am a parent, and a grandmother. I know I have no right to post here, so I'm asking permission before I post anything.
I've no problem with it.
Thank you! 
My parents were very strict on the whole 'routine' thing with me from an early age, which enabled them to enforce strict homework routines on me with no rebellion. I mean in secondary school, of course - younger kids didn't have homework as such in primary school, just occasional projects or story-writing to do.
However, that doesn't mean I can necessarily be seen as successful. I reached my peak at sixteen and gradually fell apart over the last two years of school.
I tried to be semi-strict with my older boys, which meant I gave them a lot of help and support, but had to watch them fall apart too...
Neither finished school in the conventional sense but both are very successful in their careers - in which they followed their special interests.
My daughter ended up being much more independent, but much stricter on herself than I could ever be on her. She left her first high school at sixteen to study at a school of her choice, living away from home, with friends. She finally graduated from a third school and is currently at University, the first ever in my family to go!
I am so proud of all three of them I could burst - and even more so because they did it all themselves.
With my youngest two I have come to the conclusion that I'd rather see them happy than miserable; and if that means letting up on them, I do.
I have learnt two things;
One, the current education system is very different, much more competitive and conformist, than at any time in the past and is getting worse from the point of view of anyone at all different;
Two, there is more than one way to make a success of your life as an adult and it is easier if you have supportive parents who demonstrate that they love you, and have allowed you to grow up with a sense of self-worth.
I am not saying that the way I parent is a good way - I think it works for my own children (although I invite them to contradict me if they wish - I learn at least as much from them as they do from me) and might not work for another family.
All I can say is that I love my children and respect them for who they are. I had dreams for my life; I let them have theirs.
I gave birth to them. A free gift. Their lives are their own.
I have responsibilities towards them i.e. to bring them up as well as I can - they have none towards me. That makes it all the sweeter that they actually seem to like me! 
Sorry about the long, rambling post. 
I started a tradition when my kids were little. It was called the "Rude half-hour"
If you read it, you'll see why I never blow up at my kids when they come to me with a problem.
I'm not 16 and under, however I can't really discuss any Aspie things with my parents since they seem kind of resistant to it. Especially the fact that they think I'm more "Aspie like" now that its with me, and not the fact that any and all medications were dropped, hence revealing what was to come as the person I should've been.
I find I can't discuss it with them, and that here is the best solution or just writing ideas down or thinking to myself about what to do. My parents and I disagree on many points, but we do get along.
Rude half-hour sounds interesting.
Could seem like you and EvilZakkie (in another thread) suggests that many of us shouldn't have to bother too much about doing well in school but rather focus more on things related to our interests that might make a future career.
Rude half-hour sounds interesting.
Could seem like you and EvilZakkie (in another thread) suggests that many of us shouldn't have to bother too much about doing well in school but rather focus more on things related to our interests that might make a future career.
That's a great idea. I have a photographic memory and remember everything about iPod's and computers etc. So doing computers for a career would be a good choice. I didn't do the best in school (although the subjects I was interested in I got high 80's and even 90's) but it didn't mean I was dumb. I did realize in the later grades though that you need to try a lot harder to get the marks to do what you want to do. So if you use your main interest(s) as a basis, than you should convince yourself to do well on your homework so you get to earn money off that later in life. It might work.
Actually I have to say even Nts suffer the same problem . I mean who does not get said sit on you bum and learn more?
Don't think anyone said this was exclusively for aspies.