whenever i'm upset my parents usually tell me its not worth getting upset about and thats it. so yes i do often feel i can't talk to my parents about problems. also if something happens at school they will take it too seriously and complain to a teacher which tends to make problems at school worse.
Yeah. They help me with school problems either with a "simply stop being so lazy! no computer!" (ahh that's a famous sentence among aspies, isn't it
) or with kind words like "it's going to be alright" or "you're just more intelligent than them"... but it changes nothing, unfortunately. I believe their words for a while and then go back to my rather paranoid self.
I've also tried talking to my parents about my feeling that I don't belong to the society. I've had quite long conversations with both of them separately and ended up with my dad telling me that I "probably just want to be different" and my mom (I drove her almost mad with no intention of it) saying that the problem lies in my attitude towards people.
From time to time I think they may be right.
Bah D:<
Yeah I usually don't talk to them because when I do they usually nag me about something, or another. It gets anoyying fast so i usally ignore them. But when they're not nagging me they're pretty ammusing to talk to, well my mom anyways i don't talk to my step-dad.
Definitely. I'm not talking about just homework. Anything I feel I can't tell my mother as she'll just be angry or upset.
What bugs me is that parents complain about their rebellious teenagers. So what?? We're learning to think for ourselves and not mindlessly agree with authority. This should be a good thing. So maybe we go overboard with this and make mistakes, but it's better than clinging to mommy's sleeve our whole lives.
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ABSOLUTELY! Sorry for posting twice, but this is exactly how I feel. I'm not allowed my own opinions - I'm not even allowed my own feelings.
^ Exactly. This is mostly a problem with my dad. Any time I try to express my feelings, he pulls the "because I said so, and you better learn to agree or else I'll ground you" card. It's not fair, because he always thinks he's winning arguments, but he's not. I just don't want to state my next point for fear of losing my computer time. I HATE IT!!
Anyone else feel they can't talk about problems with parents because you fear they'll respond with overly negative reactions that seems more like punishment than help?
That's my experience when it comes to my problems with getting homework done.
Same problem. Exactly the same problem. I figure it is best to try and help myself than get my parents involved.