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go with khakis instead of jeans at work, unless you guys have a casual friday thing then you can wear jeans, but i would still go with the dark wash.

Also buy some blousses (or nice looking shirts) t-shirts should only be worn on casual friday. Polo shirts are also nice.

Black slacks are a must for work, especially for meetings. Might even invest in a business suite. Closed toe shoes are also nice.

business casual for women
I have a major problem with blouses as I cannot iron the darn things - not because I don't know how, but because by halfway through my arthritic hands are hurting too much to carry on. So I prefer polo shirts in a non-iron weave and coloured so that my bra doesn't show through. If you can tolerate man-made fibres there are non-iron blouses out there, I cannot. I have managed to buy a beautifully soft, thick, man's poly/cotton shirt that never seems to need ironing from a charity shop. I dry it flat and hang it straight in the wardrobe.

Otherwise I agree that if you prefer jeans, wear them. Black or navy blue look really neat. I dress them up with a jacket - a school blazer (with no logo, of course) looks really smart and lasts way longer than an expensive jacket.

I never wear make-up either. Big Grin
-Jackets over tee-shirts will make them look more professional.
-A tee over a long denim skirt is casual, but looks more professional than a tee with jeans.
-A (dark, suit-like) skirt and boots with a blouse looks much less casual, but with a tee it doesn't look "right".
I would suggest shirts like this: http://www.smartbargains.com/go.sb?pagen...002&aid=74  Although that particular one may be out of your price range, it's easy to find cheaper ones that look like it.  You can also get away with a skirt like this: https://www.jjill.com/jjillonline/produc...F&h=W&sk=W  If you wear it with a smart-looking top, something black or white and slightly dressy.
In jackets, go for something like this:  https://www.jjill.com/jjillonline/produc...F&h=W&sk=W
Very simple sweaters are OK too, if you wear them with a nice skirt or dressy pants.
In shops there are loads of blouses with black jackets fitted into to it, which is probably okay for an office look. Also wear dark coloured jeans, and a black jacket over it, if you just want to wear t-shirt. Shops like "TopShop" and "Miss selfridge" usually do nice work clothes.
Ha, all the more reason to dress a bit more casually then. I mean, things are bad when it's considered a cardinal sin to ask a co-worker for a date! Are these people for real or what?

Sensory issues would certainly rule out any jobs for me which involved wearing closed in shoes unless it was in a cool temperature. Ditto with any kind of hot or constricting clothing. Other aspies have similar issues but thankfully not all of us.

I know it's probably a no-no in some places but I have to wear open-toed sandals or feel like I'm stifling in the shoes. I've tried willpower but it still doesn't work. Open-toed sandals don't have to look unprofessional if they are well-made and have some kind of feature like a gold buckle or discreet bow.

One day I will post a picture of my feet on this thread and then it will be very obvious as to why I can't cram them into pointy toed and tight shoes.

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Pakrat Wrote:
Ha, all the more reason to dress a bit more casually then. I mean, things are bad when it's considered a cardinal sin to ask a co-worker for a date! Are these people for real or what?


I told you the various issues re: dating at work

1.  She or he wants him or her, but not him or her
     a. sexual harassment complaint, or domestic violence, can drag company in
2.  They wanted each other, but one doesn't want the other any more
     a. ditto sexual harassment and violence
3.  They want each other but
     a. one oversees the other and other co-workers complain of jealousy
     b. female (or sometimes male) co-workers are upset that one of theirs is going out with a (charming, attractive, well paid) desirable guy at work (when they aren't supposed to) and they are jealous and compete for him

Pakrat Wrote:
Sensory issues would certainly rule out any jobs for me which involved wearing closed in shoes unless it was in a cool temperature. Ditto with any kind of hot or constricting clothing. Other aspies have similar issues but thankfully not all of us.


The air conditioning keeps us at maybe 78 degrees Fahrenheit (or in Celsius or Centigrade, 25.56 degrees).  The cost of air conditioning, heating, and lighting is factored into what we charge the customer for Federal labor schedules, GSA schedule, etc.  

Don't worry.  We only work between 74 and 78 degrees F. (23.33 to 25.56 C), almost a promise.

Well, for me to wear closed in shoes, the temperature would have to be 20 degrees or lower.

Chris, the issues you speak of exist in all workplaces and most people cope somehow with workplace romances (not always well but on the whole, okay) so I don't see why Kratos would be any different. I think you're looking for excuses not to put yourself on the line. That's okay but please don't hide behind workplace policies. Just be honest and say that you're dead scared of having a relationship that might fall apart.

So it would be about 68 degrees fahrenheit. I think I could have a bit of trouble with heat regulation because I find airconditioning about 22 degrees to be unpleasantly warm.
Apart from cracked heels, especially if there is black dirt in the cracks.
You know what looks bad too? Women having caked on makeup that is obviously slathered on (like spakfilla) and panda eyes from too much mascara. I'm not saying it's wrong to wear makeup but generally speaking, less is more. Overbleached hair isn't a particularly good look either, or tight clothes.

Pakrat Wrote:
You know what looks bad too? Women having caked on makeup that is obviously slathered on (like spakfilla) and panda eyes from too much mascara. I'm not saying it's wrong to wear makeup but generally speaking, less is more. Overbleached hair isn't a particularly good look either, or tight clothes.


Or a huge bare cleavage Sad. If *I* find it distracting, what on earth does it do for people who find such things attractive? Tongue

And tops which aren't long enough to reach the skirt/trousers.

Don't get me started on 'hipster' styles...

Yeah, those hipster styles nearly always look silly.
darker jeans are more formal than lighter jeans-the colour makes more difference than whether trousers/skirt jeans and try and avoid getting ones with too many jewels on the back. Shirts/blouses look better than t-shirts and if you want t-shirts try and get tighter tops that are well cut without fancy designs.
On the tuck question: if in doubt, leave it out. Only tuck in if it is tucked in on the model and you are wearing a similar outfit to the model who is demonstrating it.
I do not usually like fashion, but this blew my head off:

Click on FALL-WINTER 2008-2009

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