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another article from the Toronto Star:

http://www.thestar.com/article/288858

ASPERGERS TRAITS
# Asperger Syndrome is hard to diagnose, but behavioural signals include:
# Stressed or depressed behaviour.
# Behaviour indicating anxiety, such as pacing, clicking pens.
# Unusual repetitive movements such as hand flapping, finger twisting, tics.
# Unusual or no response to emotional situations.
# Being described as hyperactive, inattentive or unfocused.
# Highly developed verbal skills, poor writing skills.
# Difficulty handling unstructured times such as recess or gym class.
# Inability to make friends.

ASPERGERS FACTS
# Statistics are vague and varying, but Aspergers occurs in roughly one in 1,000 people.
# Only one in eight Asperger children are girls but they often are very sensitive to any touch, including something as slight as that of a clothing tag. Some will eat only a certain food.
# Celebrities who have been reported to have Aspergers include director Steven Spielberg, actor Dan Aykroyd, scientist Albert Einstein and pianist Glenn Gould.
# The name comes from a Viennese psychiatrist, Hans Asperger, who noted the cluster of characteristics in the 1940s. A British doctor brought his work to contemporary attention in the ’80s.

One mom's struggle leads to group offering practical expertise on baffling syndrome
Dec 27, 2007 04:30 AM
Catherine Dunphy
staff reporter

A 10-year-old girl refuses to wear anything but her bathing suit. In winter. To school. To the distress of her parents.

A 12-year-old boy is obsessed with Toronto's transit system, memorizing the location and number of every city bus and subway route.

Normal-looking and normal-behaving in many ways, these are GTA children with Asperger Syndrome, commonly thought of as a form of high-functioning autism. But it's rare and frequently misdiagnosed as an attention deficit or anxiety disorder, or even giftedness.

In fact, Aspergers children are often overwhelmingly bright, but they can't process more than one thing at a time. Super sensitive to outside stimuli, they easily overload. One describes being in a classroom like being in a closet with 2,000 people talking at once.

As a result, they often have highly focused, if unusual, interests. They may know the latitude and longitude of every world capital city, but they can't read non-verbal communication and therefore are duds at social interaction. Worst of all, they are smart enough to know it.

"I'm so bad, I should be dead," Matthew Leaton told his mother, Nancy, when he was just 7. He'd fly into rages – punch and kick – but not be able to tell his parents why. But he is also a sweet, affectionate boy who loves reading maps.

Then, last summer, at age 11, he was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome.

"He's happier because he knows it's not his fault now, that parts of his brain don't connect. They're all there; they just don't connect. Now we just have to learn the skills to get along with this," says his mother Nancy, a retired teacher.

She is finding them – and moral support – in the new Eglinton Ave. offices of the Aspergers Society of Ontario.

For eight years, Margot Nelles ran the society single-handedly out of the pantry nook off the kitchen of her small home in Toronto's Wychwood Park area.

There Nelles organized two ground-breaking conferences and helped publish a respected Canadian text on a syndrome that has really only been on the health radar for less than two decades.

As a mother of two boys with it, she has become the foremost expert and resource for other parents.

"Aspergers needn't be a bad thing but parents are usually devastated when they hear the diagnosis and often don't want to tell the child," says Nelles, 44.

"If they don't tell, depression will happen. They are smart kids. They can see they are not connecting. The depression derails them. It's inevitable. Whether they are 16, 18, 23, it will happen."

Asperger Syndrome was first included in the DSM-IV, the diagnostic bible of the psychiatric community, only in 1994.

"It really is new," says Kevin Stoddard, a social worker with a practice specializing in Aspergers. "We are really struggling with how to identify these kids and adults and to differentiate high-functioning autism from Aspergers. It's still not clear."

Eight years ago when Nelles was trying to get help for her eldest son, Zack, now 16, things were positively murky.

"I had been looking for help since he was 2 1/2," she recalls. She had been told repeatedly she was a bad parent, a hysteric; she was told her child – who would twirl on the floor for hours – was just going through a phase.

"She was a mess and he was such a sad little guy," recalls Carole Nelles, Margot's mother.

Dr. Leon Sloman at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health diagnosed Zack with Asperger Syndrome.

When Nelles told her son that things would get easier now that they understood the nature of the problem, the boy replied: "I always thought I was a broken, rotten kid." Those words propelled her into action.Two weeks later, Nelles, at one time an associate television producer, was back in Sloman's office with a plan for a registered charitable organization and a board of directors. She had spent her savings to start a website for the new organization. Almost immediately the emails and phone calls started.

"There was a complete vacuum in terms of facilities for these children," Sloman says.

Nelles suggested group meetings so the children could interact socially. That was the start of a flourishing program that takes place at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health every Wednesday afternoon. While the children are meeting, so are their parents.

Nelles talks for at least two hours to every family who phones or writes her. "Why should other people take all those years (I took) to get on the right road?" she says.

Nelles and her mother, who helps co-ordinate the parents' groups, scramble to pay the facilitators and the experts they bring in.

They've never received government money but many of their 200 members do their own fundraising. Two years ago they received a windfall private donation of $50,000.

Nelles' work is paying off for GTA kids with Aspergers.

The girl in the bathing suit is now wearing regular clothing. She has a small gang of friends at school and plans to be a counsellor-in-training at a camp this summer.

Matthew Leaton is starting a new school next month. It is for children with Autism Spectrum Disorders. Next year, fingers crossed, he will be enrolled in a special class for Asperger kids taught by a teacher with Asperger Syndrome.

"Because he is bright they are telling us there is no reason he couldn't go to university," says Nancy Leaton.

"There is hope," Nelles says. "Aspergers is not a dead-end sentence."
It sounds mostly good- I notice that the people interviewed never say anything about making kids normal or cures or how much they wish their kid wasn't autistic.
Only one bad thing- "Only one in eight Asperger children are girls".  I've seen this statistic bandied around before and I have no clue where people get it.  The commonly accepted rate is actually 1 in 4, and even that I think is lower than reality.  The reporter on this article obviously did not do his/her homework.
Since when is poor writing skills a sign of AS?  Sure, there might be some aspies who aren't very good writers.  But there are also some of us who are.
There is no reason why aspies shouldn't, or aren't, able to multitask. The ability to focus on more than one thing at once, or not being able to, isn't an aspie trait, so "they can't process more than one thing at a time" is an overgeneralization.

By the way, what's "GTA" short for (surely not "Grand Theft Auto" Tongue), as in "these are GTA children with Asperger Syndrome"?
I'm a terrible multi-tasker.  I can do it, and I have to with my current job, but it's a route to inefficiency and dissatisfaction. I'd much rather focus intensely on one thing at a time.

srp07 Wrote:
Since when is poor writing skills a sign of AS?  Sure, there might be some aspies who aren't very good writers.  But there are also some of us who are.


I wonder whether they meant to say "poor handwriting skills" rather than "poor writing skills".  I'm good with words and writing essays etc, but my handwriting isn't so good, so I prefer to type on the computer whenever possible.

There are differences between technical writing and evocative writing also.  I'm pretty decent at the former, pretty lousy at the latter.

But basic point, generalizations are frought with exceptions.

Good for that Mom, though!
"If they don't tell, depression will happen. They are smart kids. They can see they are not connecting. The depression derails them. It's inevitable. Whether they are 16, 18, 23, it will happen."
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What is the author saying is inevitable? Depression, not connecting, knowing they aren't connection or revelation of diagnosis?
srp07, I'm pretty sure they were referring to poor handwriting skills, not "writing" as in ability to create stories. My printing is quite childlike but my ability to create articles and stories is good.
I have heard that for the diagnosis of Autistic Disorder, 1 in 4 is female, and that for Aspergers, it is more like 1 in 8 or 1 in 10. I agree that it's probably a bit higher.

I also wonder about the comment one of the reserchers gave, about how it was difficult to differentiate between high-functioning autism and Asperger's. Huh? Why do they care so much?

Also, something I think of that this reminded me of, one of the neighbors commented that one of the kids was "such a sad little guy". It really seems like people connect kids' tantrums and depression with being unhappy that they are autistic. I myself spent many, many hours screaming and crying and depressed as a kid throughout to adolescence, and I would certainly hate if people tried to use that as evidence of me being better off with ABA or something.

I don't think this article used it in that context, but I've seen on the sites of the cure organizations that this is perpetuated - the image of the lonely, tortured soul being trapped by this monster called autism - all backed with the overwhelming evidence of kids having tantrums.

Simen Wrote:
By the way, what's "GTA" short for (surely not "Grand Theft Auto" Tongue), as in "these are GTA children with Asperger Syndrome"?

Haha, that's what I was thinking when I read that as well.

The "Asperger's Traits" they listed seem like they were just pulled out of someone's ass, though. Poor writers? I can write better than I can speak, and if I am not mistaken, plenty of other people here are like that as well.

Perhaps they were referring to handwriting skills instead? I've found that many people tend to have trouble reading things I wrote by hand, though I personally don't feel that my handwriting is particularly illegible (I've seen much worse).

I interpreted the writing thing as handwriting - I think lousy penmanship is sometimes part of the motor skills issue?

With this business:

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If they don't tell, depression will happen. They are smart kids. They can see they are not connecting. The depression derails them. It's inevitable. Whether they are 16, 18, 23, it will happen



What I *think* they're trying to say is that Aspies are smart enough to realise they're different in some way, and by telling a kid about their diagnosis, you save a lot of unnecessary 'what's wrong with me?' angst.  For me, that not knowing did lead to depression, but from other posters' reactions to that statement, it's not a universal Aspie Thing.

Am I the only one who found the headline misleading?  Maybe it's just my linguistic pedantry shining through, but "hope and support after Aspergers" implies Aspergers is some sort of phase the kid went through, and this article's going to be about how to mop up once they've grown out of it.

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