Aspies For Freedom

Hi,
I know this is only a peripheral peer support issue, and I’m not a regular on these boards, but I do lurk and take an active interest in the autism self-advocacy movement and neurodiversity issues…but, I felt like my problem needed support and clarity from other autistics…
I’m autistic, gay and a student at the University of Manchester. My best friend, with whom I have been friends for two years is NT, but we have a very close bond and even inclusive of my neurodiverse friends, I feel that he is the only person with whom I can fully be myself and the only person that understands me…
Anyway, he told me of his intention to move to London (so he can be with his boyfriend who will work as a management consultant in London) in September and I just can’t think of how lonely I will become…but I must think about it now and it is horrible and I feel sick and so teary…
before we were friends I was so unbelievably lonely and unhappy, I had nobody to talk to or share things with, like when happy or exciting things were happening, I had no friends so nobody to share these things with. And we will only get to see each other monthly (we see each other almost daily now) and I know it will be terrible and I feel so hopeless cos I know nothing I can do will stop him moving to London… I try to socialise and meet more people, but I just continually fail…
I know there is no solution to this that a message board can offer, but I had to get down these thoughts (not very coherent or grammatically proper, I know, but…). The only possible solution was that I try and transfer to a university in London and beg him that I can move him with him… or get myself sectioned under the Mental Health Act …
But I know that I will just become angry and alone and it is awful to know that it is coming and nothing I can do will avert this…
…nun ist es zu spät. Jetzt bin ich aus Stein…

james

I'm so sorry. I can't think of anything more helpful than that, but I am sorry...

I’m very sorry to hear your friend will be moving away; its always difficult when we can’t spend time with those we care about.

But I have fond that closeness can be maintained with friends even across long distances. Emails, telephone conversations and visits can all help. Once you’ve made such a good friend the friendship never really dies--it changes--grows. Who can say what the future holds--perhaps in a year of two you’ll be back together again. Don’t give up hope.

At least it works fine for me. Chatrooms works best for the not so major frustrations.

I don't have any friends to talk with daily, but I can usually talk comfortably with my dad whenever I want which is nice.