todayw as hard.my gram diside that, even after i told i was tired and sore and stressed from a prevoinous lecture, that to day would be a good day for a Lecture on the fact that i glare, when i dont.she says look at me and i do and she then preseades to tell me how i am glaring and she wont take it any more and that i must learn not to do so, so that poeple will like me or sum such idea like that. she means well, but what she doesnt get is that *I DONT CARE* what socity thinks about me, just my family.
She has the abitly to make me crash into tears with 5 little words, ....I am ashamed of you...
how do i deal with stuff like this?
correction:sore from helping you a friend at there ranch yesterday.
:*( Guardian I am so sorry to hear that. Well intentioned or not it is not okay to say things like that. Crazy, ignorant old lady.
People here love you and care about you Guardian. You're an amazing girl. Aspie death stare or not.
I'm so sorry your grandmother talks to you that way. Unfortunately she probably learned that method of discipline from her own parents and grandparents, and thinks their ways were best. If it helps any, you are not the only one whose facial expressions are misunderstood. I was often accused of "sulking" as a child when I
wasn't, probably because I have a downturned mouth,
and, I suspect, because the adults talking to me at the time were angry themselves and assumed I was getting angry at them in return! If your grandmother is already in a cranky and critical mood, maybe she thinks you are too, or maybe she just likes to find fault. It's frustrating to be criticized for something you can't fix. Try not to take the "I'm ashamed of you" line too personally...parents, grandparents and teachers have been saying that for centuries, passing it down through the generations.
You will know better when it is your turn to discipline.
:*( Guardian I am so sorry to hear that. Well intentioned or not it is not okay to say things like that. Crazy, ignorant old lady.
People here love you and care about you Guardian. You're an amazing girl. Aspie death stare or not.
not crazy just doesnt really believe in letting me walk my own path. talks all day bout stuff like that but doesnt do so in actions.
sorry, crazy was an exageration. I hope you are feeling better.
hasnt said that she is ashamed of me but almost never says she proud of me either. shes very confusing i hold back most of what i want to say in fear of earning a lecture.I *hate* lectures. i get them though so i guess i have to put up with them.
*shrugs*
sorry, crazy was an exageration. I hope you are feeling better.
a little... my emotions hang by thread with my family.gram went home a little while ago.so i'm better but i need to vent, i cuased a little sence in the lawn o mat to day becuase of this.
Venting is good and the odd scene now and then is a normal part of family life, families are never easy. Often people desparately want the best for their family member but too often this doesn't fit with what the individual wants for themselves.
Hope you feel better now.
Venting is good and the odd scene now and then is a normal part of family life, families are never easy. Often people desparately want the best for their family member but too often this doesn't fit with what the individual wants for themselves.
Hope you feel better now.
I hope you are feeling better, too!
I know - I'm a granny too, so you might not want to take any notice of me! 
I sincerely hope I never get that critical of young people! Mind you, where is the fun in getting old if you can't be grumpy?!
I'd guess that she actually means to be helpful, and even if she realizes that her words are hurtful she believes it is OK because the end result is to help you. Love her and forgive her and get on with your life. cyberhug.
I agree with Grizel. My mum can be like this - make very hurtful comments which she genuinely thinks are "helpful". Hard as it is, it's best to try and ignore it, and be the better person.