The old saying "it's funny because it's true" applys here. I got a small chuckle from this but found it a little bit too real in a sad way
You know you're curebie when...
... you have taken your autistic child away from the chess tournament just before he wins the whole thing because he is supposed to go to the ABA therapist to learn to *not* rock while playing chess.
... you tell your friends how your child is gifted and talented, and then punish him when he spends time working with his gift
And you ground him from going to chess club for a month because he had a meltdown because you stopped him from finishing his game just when he was about to win because it was time for his ABA appointment.
And then complain about his spending too much time playing chess with other people rather than socialising then ban him from socialising in chess club
I wouldn't say that's curebie, it's just debate-able whether is a good approach or not.
I wouldn't say that's curebie, it's just debate-able whether is a good approach or not.
I refered to Pakrat
I'm confused here (and derailing this thread, sorry) but what's wrong with taking away computer time for bad behaviour?
What would be a better punishment?
It's the way they say it, as if they are proud of how upset it makes their kids. I think a better punishment for bad behaviour is time-out. Also, it's not a good idea to expect too much of aspie kids when they first come home from school. All kids need time to destress after school, especially aspie kids.
They should at least be able to have a snack and some "down-time" before they are expected to do anything else.
This sounds horribly familiar.
I can remember when I used to come home from school i'd be exhausted and hungry/thirsty having walked home most days. First thing i'd do would be to walk into the kitchen and get a drink of coke. My parents insisted that I got changed and did all my homework (even if it took hours) before I could do this.
Felt like I should clarify that I'm all about taking a break after school for fun, relaxation and replenishment.
But if kids not doing their homework or chores intentionally when I've done my best to accomodate them, they will loose fun activities- regardless of their neurological wiring.
Depends on the age of the child and the nature of the chores. Five year olds shouldn't have ANY homework. What sort of chores are you talking about? Need to be careful the kids aren't being overloaded.
I think that a good definition of my idea of "curebie" is that it is someone who simply dislike anything "autistic", without necessarily having a valid reason. The other definition is ofcourse people with the idea that the best way to help autistics are to get rid of "autism", which isn't really the same.
I can remember when I used to come home from school i'd be exhausted and hungry/thirsty having walked home most days. First thing i'd do would be to walk into the kitchen and get a drink of coke. My parents insisted that I got changed and did all my homework (even if it took hours) before I could do this.
Yeah, nothing like exhaustion and dehydration to ensure maximum concentration upon the all-important homework...(sarcasm) 
Yes indeed - who's showing lack of empathy? It's not the child who might be tired, possibly upset and stressed, thirsty and hungry.
... you're 50 000 dollars poorer after having visited a DAN! conference.
I wonder can you have negative intelligence?
Ask George Bush
