The old saying "it's funny because it's true" applys here. I got a small chuckle from this but found it a little bit too real in a sad way
You know you're curebie when...
... you have taken your autistic child away from the chess tournament just before he wins the whole thing because he is supposed to go to the ABA therapist to learn to *not* rock while playing chess.
... you tell your friends how your child is gifted and talented, and then punish him when he spends time working with his gift
And you ground him from going to chess club for a month because he had a meltdown because you stopped him from finishing his game just when he was about to win because it was time for his ABA appointment.
And then complain about his spending too much time playing chess with other people rather than socialising then ban him from socialising in chess club
I wouldn't say that's curebie, it's just debate-able whether is a good approach or not.
I wouldn't say that's curebie, it's just debate-able whether is a good approach or not.
I refered to Pakrat
I'm confused here (and derailing this thread, sorry) but what's wrong with taking away computer time for bad behaviour?
What would be a better punishment?
It's the way they say it, as if they are proud of how upset it makes their kids. I think a better punishment for bad behaviour is time-out. Also, it's not a good idea to expect too much of aspie kids when they first come home from school. All kids need time to destress after school, especially aspie kids.
They should at least be able to have a snack and some "down-time" before they are expected to do anything else.
This sounds horribly familiar.
I can remember when I used to come home from school i'd be exhausted and hungry/thirsty having walked home most days. First thing i'd do would be to walk into the kitchen and get a drink of coke. My parents insisted that I got changed and did all my homework (even if it took hours) before I could do this.
I think that a good definition of my idea of "curebie" is that it is someone who simply dislike anything "autistic", without necessarily having a valid reason. The other definition is ofcourse people with the idea that the best way to help autistics are to get rid of "autism", which isn't really the same.
...You extend your recriminations to nagging via post.
(Like something I got from my mum today. "You need to make more eye contact because I noticed that you don't and..." blah blah.)
(Perhaps I will write back. "Shut up. F* off. Leave me alone.")
Very direct and to the point…but I think you’re a little more eloquent and a little too nice for all that. 
The parent forces you read the dictionary because you got distracted in class and had fallen behind with your reading (my mother did this...there were tears before bedtime). I had enough trouble reading stuff I was interested in...
... you're 50 000 dollars poorer after having visited a DAN! conference.
That doesn't sound so much "curebie" as "well meaning but ill-informed".
What a brilliant thread!
You know you're a curbie parent if...
...you become OBSESSED with arguing that there is NO CONNECTION between the famous troubled loner genius in the family and your “severely autistic” child. NO CONNECTION AT ALL! And HOW DARE YOU suggest such a thing!
...you believe that evil multinational pharmaceutical corporations are engaged in some kind of conspiracy to conceal a link between vaccines and autism, but at the same time you are more than happy to pump your autistic child full of psychiatric drugs that are manufactured and unethically promoted by …. evil multinational pharmaceutical corporations.
...you expect people to offer sympathy, support and condolences whenever you discuss your autistic child.