We had a similar siaution with our son at his last school. He was under an IEP plan that my wife and I fought for, and despite the veneer of an anti-bullting program at the school, the leadership was ineffectual and discipline was rarely dealt out in the many bullying incidents we encountered. My wife informed the principal that we were ready to go to the local media and tell them that anti-bullying policies were not being enforced at the school and that special education students were the victims. Of course, it was a bluff. We would never involve our kids in a media circus, but they believed it and the bullying problem was finally dealt with. Of course, bullying is also assault and battery, even if it is commited by a minor, so you always have the option of going to the police yourself. They don't take kindly to that kind of thing.
Lastly, you may want to teach your son how to defend himself and fight off an attacker shoudl the need arise. There's lots of local karate schools that will even give private lessons if your son is uncomfortable with a group setting.
That is awesome!
I've got two anti bullying policies, they're on the end of my arms.
My son is only in Preschool so he hasnt had any bullying at school. I'm sure that doesnt come till a bit later. I will say that last year in school there was a great kid that really liked my son he is not in his class this year though.
There was once older kids (middle school age) that were at a party we were at that wouldnt let my son climb up the tree house and before I could intervene my then 4 year old told them "dont do that to my brother you meanie"
and he helped his brother in . LOL . [quote=wl5661]
How on earth are those of you with the diagnosed children dealing with the in school bullying? The reactions of the school systems seem to vary. The situation my son has wound up in has left me sick. he dreads school , hates physical education ( that is where bullying is
School was hell. I spent most of it thinking about hurting myself in some way.
yeah, take it from me; not a path you want to take.
seriously. I have well over a hundred little scars crisscrossing my chest and arms from that, and its actually very addictive. (the endorphins, you see)
I didn't self harm in the traditional way i.e. cutting myself, I developed a weird eating disorder that wasn't quite bulimia but kind of similar... I used to chew up my food so that I 'tricked' my brain into thinking I was eating then spat it out. And I really abused laxatives. I had awful stomach spasms and cramps and even though I've always had problems with going to the toilet (I don't go as much as I should), it got worse after that. I don't want to go into too much detail here in case someone who wants 'tips' on how to lose weight that way is reading this.
[life rant]:
See, everything was fine until we moved... at my first school I moved to, I only got bullied a little, but it didn't matter then.
Then, then, mum had to find a *** boyfriend and we moved yet again! Just a year after we moved before, too!
And, well, this boyfriend caused a mutlitude of problems to our psyches, my mum's, my cat's and I's precious psyche. And I was also bulled without mercy there, too. Because I was myself. Why? No idea. I was bullied for years, self-esteem crushed, depression setting in... and then, high school. *flinches* Not that I got bullied, there, too. No, I was traumatised enough, thank you.
But hey, there's a silver lining, right? Yep. Mum found out boyfriend cheated on her, one problem solved. And eventually I stopped caring what people thought. Screw them all. I am who I am. I'd rather be myself then a sheep, or a bully... <.<
[/life rant]
I'm better now, dropped out of school once I was legal enough. 'Sides, if I ever get the urge to school again, harhar, there's always uni/tafe.
I'm recuperating, too. Fun. I just hope my bullies are having the *** time of their lives right now... *rolls eyes*
... Oooh, look. I'm still bitter, it seems. Oh. Oh, and yes. The most punishment my bullies got was a slap on the wrist, as well.
*breathes deeply* Sorry? ^^;
Atta girl! thats the way to view it, most people are worthless and make no impact on you.
and as for bitter? completely understandable...
Well, mostly. Unless they're close to you. But I'm sure you were meaning people you don't care what happens to them...
Yes, completely. Four years or so of bullying would make anyone bitter.
yup.i was bullied from the day i joined school to the day my mum pulled me out to home school me (uh...that would have been when i was about 9..)
as a result, i have a damaged back from people jumping and sitting on me.
what happened to them? sod.all.
who would automatically get the blame as the "troublemaking tantrum causing hyperactive brat"? gee, lets think...?
bitter? too **** right.... but, i have seen some of those people ( i think) when i went back to my old town...flipping burgers and taking trash.
Justice!
Divine intervention is always great! XD
My "abuse", per say, was mostly psychological/emotional. *blinks* And I hope my former bullies are leading a crappy life right now... *ponders and hopes her will will be enough to their lives horrible* D:<
who would automatically get the blame as the "troublemaking tantrum causing hyperactive brat"? gee, lets think...?
The sterotype of a bully is a big dum guy, but I think this is just the one who actually gets in trouble for it. My experience is that most bullies are privledged kids who know they can get away with it b/c they are more important.
Well when I was 17, I was waiting on a bus to go to work and I saw one of the girls who used to literally kick the sh*t out of me at school walking by with her buggy.
2 years later I had to do into the benefits office to get details of my parents' income signed for a college bursary, and she was in there with her toddler and baby. She still gave me a look as if to say 'I'm going to get you outside'. I just forced myself to smirk at her, even though I was still terrified.
It goes against every sociological bone in my body, but it still raises a smirk.
That is crazy! I never seen anyone get beat up where I went to school. There were a couple of kids that got picked on but never beat on. I feel bad that so many have had that happen to them.
Well when I was 17, I was waiting on a bus to go to work and I saw one of the girls who used to literally kick the sh*t out of me at school walking by with her buggy.
2 years later I had to do into the benefits office to get details of my parents' income signed for a college bursary, and she was in there with her toddler and baby. She still gave me a look as if to say 'I'm going to get you outside'. I just forced myself to smirk at her, even though I was still terrified.
It goes against every sociological bone in my body, but it still raises a smirk.
I never hit them back. Thats what I always regret, especially because I'm not a small girl. A sharp backhander to one of those girls would probably have saved me a lot of misery - I don't condone violence, but if I could go back in time...