I have a kid who is beeing tested for HFA.
The kid does not want to go to kindergarden anymore,just want to go home cry when I leave.
Some of the kids that my kid used to hang out with sais mean things and just leave my kid alone.
The kid does not have social interaction with the others but something she hopes will develop into that,according to a woman in kindergarden.
What should I do now???
A few thoughts (I have a 7yo AS son).
It is very typical for my son to have an extreme reaction to many things. So while your child's tantrums LOOK very extreme, it is possible that she just doesn't have her guage fine-tuned enough to show "I'm nervous" versus "I'm scared" versus "I'm terrified". It might be worth trying to observe her in class, or getting a detailed report from another observer (if your presence might make things worse) and try and figure out if she is nervous, versus scared, versus terrified. We have a chart with five colored blocks labeled 1-5 on it with faces representing happy, okay, annoyed, angry, melt-down and we're trying to help DS find those "middle" emotions so that he is not either happy or melting down.
Second, my son tends to attach his strong feeling to the most available thing around him - usually other kids. For example, his frustration might be the noise in the classroom, or the smell on the bus, but what he lashes out at or gets angry with is the kid next to him. You have to be a detective and try to figure out what is the source of your child's anxiety - the temperature of the classroom? a requirement to sit on a carpet with the other kids? the lunch room?
There are things beyond your control in a classroom environment and it may be that your child will be better served in a different setting altogether. BUT if you can pinpoint some of the biggest challenges in her day, you might be able to work with kindergarten your child is already in.
Thank you ever so much!!
The thing is just that...there is no name for my kids condition yet...