Aspies For Freedom

Are there any other kindergardens in the area that might be more appropriate environments for your child?
Or could some arrangement be made with the kindergarden and your child so that they can have 'alone' time at kindergarden, or some kind of basic social skills training by the teacher, in conjunction with some other children who could be possible friends? (Tony Attwood write a lot about this kind of training in The Complete Guide to Asperger Syndrome).

These are just suggestions. I hope that you find a good solution.

If a child is so unhappy that they don't want to go to kindergarten any more, I think they're better off home if that is possible.

I've often wondered what kinds of informational sources gifted kids who learnt alot of stuff in their childhood had. Anyway, maybe your daughter could instead of having alot of social interaction at kindergarten, have something to do which she finds interesting.

Some might find building things with duplo or whatever negative if the kids then don't interact with the others, but I'd say it could be better than forced social situations, as that would probably be very stressfull for your daughter.

The problem is ensuring that the other children leave her be so that she has a chance to engage in the things that she finds appealing. Thee are a hundred little ways to torment a peer when a child has that inclination -- and the teacher will miss most of it.

Emmy, bullying is why I brought my oldest home.  He did not want to go to school and it got so bad that he would throw himself on the ground outside screaming and have to be carried in by two teachers.  This went on for a couple of weeks and then I suddenly realized that I knew him better than anyone at that school and I should not let them decide what was best.  I stopped listening to "them" and started listening to my son.  I don't know what options are available for you, but listen to your daughter.  Be her advocate.  Don't let others define her in terms of a problem to be remedied, she is a perfect child with the anchor of the universe within.

Yes, it really won't hurt for them to spend some time at home rather than being forced to be with kids they don't like.

http://aspiehomeeducation.blogspot.com/

If you want to be inspired.

Thank you guys so much for your answers,you dont know how much they meen to me!!
The kindergarden sais that the reason my kid is sad,probably is because my kid can tell that I am sad too when I leave. I dont know what more it is possible to do to hide it though-I have done the best I can since I started to send my kid!
A few days ago they said the sad mood passes in one and a half minute,and that was good to hear,even though Im worried about the friends-situation.
The pro`s want me to keep send my kid to kinderguarden as they think it will improve my kids social skills and communication and they think its important that my kid stayes in a stabile invirement and dont want my kid to have a lot of changes around.They have written a note about this to whom it may consern, and the kinderguarden wount let my kid sit to much with the favorite toys,as they says my kid "dreams away" to much or get too focused.
Having said this,the kinderguarden has managed to stopped my kids headbanging against the wall when he was starting there and lately they have hierd a person (not a proffesional) to be there for my kid (and some others?).My kid has done a lot of stimming lately with his hands.I dont feel its healthy to let him stay due to his sadness...apperantly there are some jealousy between my kid and a new kid that started reasontly that has become friends with my kids old best friend.

I've never seen any logic behind the "don't-let-them-do-one-thing for-too-long" mentality found in Norway. They say "they get too little stimulated if they do so", but have the people who claimed this understand stimulation of autistics?

I don't think so.

Head-banging might be a result of frustration when someone isn't allowed to do the things that they want, and even though an activity seems boring doesn't mean that autistics don't learn anything from it.

This page might illustrate what I meant by my last point:

http://www.gettingthetruthout.org/pageb003.html

Thank you!
I will check out the page ASAP

I really would like to teach my kid at home,but Im afraid some people with a sertain power would declaire "war" against me if I did so...

This was a brilliant site!!!

I'd say to your child's teacher, "Why should my daughter want to develop social interaction, with people who behave monsterously towards her?"

Thank you for that link. I have bookmarked it, as I think that I should show it to everyone who doubts that we aspies have anything to say about so-called 'LFA'.

Emmy, trust yourself: take your child out of kindy and teach her to trust that you will listen to her when she needs you. She has to be allowed to develop socially (as far as she wants to) at her own pace, not that of the others whatever the kindergarten teacher may say. I lasted just one week at kindergarten and then, to my joy, my parents realised what was going on and brought me home.

If a chicken is raised with ducklings, throwing it in the pond with the ducklings won't help it to swim!

Emmy- I'm right there with you.   I'm sorry that you're having all this trouble.  I wouldn't worry too much about taking him out, you could always claim (quite rationally) that "he's not ready for school yet" and not suffer any severe consequences... then by next year you could do homeschool without too much trouble- fall through the cracks, as it may.

Thinking of you, Emmy.