09-20-2007, 05:05 PM
09-20-2007, 10:17 PM
She pronounces it "oz-burgers". I've heard different pronounciations before, but never that one.
It's pretty obvious from the way she moves; she's deffinetly got the Aspie body language. I hope that her odd movements won't be a hinderance in the competition, but..... you never know with these reality shows.
It's pretty obvious from the way she moves; she's deffinetly got the Aspie body language. I hope that her odd movements won't be a hinderance in the competition, but..... you never know with these reality shows.
09-24-2007, 03:06 AM
You too?! It's like I speak two languages--the formal, 'pedantic' language in which I can get anything across, but sound like I'm reading out loud; and the quasi-NT speech that sounds close to normal (a lot like the video, actually) but doesn't get a lot of ideas across.
I feel like I'm bilingual, and keep switching from one to the other!
I feel like I'm bilingual, and keep switching from one to the other!
09-24-2007, 03:33 AM
I suck at talking, I have a real hard time deciding intonation and volume of my voice. And alot of time I dot even sound like Im american.
09-24-2007, 03:41 AM
SoccerFreak248 Wrote:
I suck at talking, I have a real hard time deciding intonation and volume of my voice. And alot of time I dot even sound like Im american.
LOL, because my Irish step-grandson has your intonantion/volume problems and a lot of the time sounds as if he IS American!
I still have volume problems but I think I've nailed the intonation. Except that when I'm not thinking about it I get a Yorkshire accent (I blame my mum for that!).
09-28-2007, 07:04 AM
woman from mars Wrote:
Volume problems?.....do you mean loud? 
Sorry, I missed your question earlier. Yes loud, but also sometimes too quiet. Two of my sons have the same difficulty. We all three have intermittent hearing loss, which doesn't help matters.
11-29-2007, 03:28 AM
*sigh* Sucks that she got kicked off =(. I've been crying inside sense and wish it wouldn't have happened. However, now that she's off, I have no doubt that people will be flocking to sign her [a contract]. I just hope and pray they don't do anything for CAN.
11-30-2007, 11:26 PM
I really felt for Heather when she got lost, as I could very much see myself in that situation I got lost lots when I first moved to my home town and that's with maps and road signs in English not that it matters I can't read maps and when (if I) ask for directions I don't process the direction unless they are simple like next right and its there! Short term memory and even if I do remember ie right it down I still can't follow I usually rely on other people showing me. I think this task but Heather at an unfair disadvantage and this was overlooked by the show's people hey maybe she could sue! Some of the judges comments about Heather's Asperger's irritated me. Heather should have won, the rest were bitches and were nasty to Heather. I hope she does really well, as for the rest of the season I won't be watching.
11-30-2007, 11:30 PM
I haven't watched much of the show, but I did see Heather's last two episodes, and I was sad to see her sent home. However, I do think she will get modeling work elsewhere and continue to make a name and career for herself. 
12-01-2007, 01:43 PM
Batman55 Wrote:
Heather: Umm... Yeah. Make sure that you keep don't keep a losing mentality. It's very easy for those with Asperger's to be... or see something and be really like stuck on it. Either it's going to go good or go bad. and be really stuck on it. and just not think that you know, its going to be positive no matter what. Another thing is it really does help to practice your speech in front of a mirror and to you know. It also helps to really force yourself to put yourself in social situations. Because shunning away... I mean, I know it's hard to get into social situations but shunning is just not going to help. It's better to just bite the bullet and go through it than not doing it at all and not changing.
I don't agree with this advice, because I don't believe in "forcing" anything. Just to put this out there.
I don't agree with this advice, because I don't believe in "forcing" anything. Just to put this out there.
Batman, I think what she means by saying that is that you have to face your fears. If you get into social situations, yeah, it might be hard, frightnening, and even painful (b/c people might tease or bully you), but it's good because it will help you learn to get better and better at it in the long run. Maybe she didn't use perfect wording, but I do think that's what she meant, and I think she's right- that's why a lot of parents put their aspie kids in social skills classes, because it does help. No, it won't make them "normal" (nor should it!) but it will help them to communicate better and make friends more easily, which in my book is always a good thing.
12-02-2007, 10:18 AM
Anxiety including social anxiety can lead to avoidance behaviour which works in the short term for dealing with the anxiety but in the long run it does not work and could lead agrophobia or a loss of social skills, I go by a general thing of no avoidance behaviour but when it comes to socialising it can be hard if people avoid me, so I go to adult social groups for ASD's and to the mental health social group. If I dont feel like going because of my anxiety/depression I usually force myself the cycle ride lifts me and the being around people relieves my anxiety more often than not I feel a lot better for going than not going. However I do compensate this with some alone time to recharge but have to careful because I have often taken that too far in that I have not left the flat for days.
12-03-2007, 01:28 AM
Fruitcake Wrote:
Anxiety including social anxiety can lead to avoidance behaviour which works in the short term for dealing with the anxiety but in the long run it does not work and could lead agrophobia or a loss of social skills, I go by a general thing of no avoidance behaviour but when it comes to socialising it can be hard if people avoid me, so I go to adult social groups for ASD's and to the mental health social group. If I dont feel like going because of my anxiety/depression I usually force myself the cycle ride lifts me and the being around people relieves my anxiety more often than not I feel a lot better for going than not going. However I do compensate this with some alone time to recharge but have to careful because I have often taken that too far in that I have not left the flat for days.
Yeah, that's been my experience, too- I usually find that I'm frightened of going but once I'm there it's not as bad as I thought it would. I have to be careful not to overextend myself though- I might be fine going to a movie with a big group of friends, but I shouldn't go to dinner with them after that, or I'll start to get overloaded and meltdown.
12-06-2007, 05:03 PM
violet_yoshi Wrote:
jewelie Wrote:
dinosaur heretic Wrote:
. . .
I never knew how to handle the attention I got from males (which led to some horrible events) nor the jealousy I got from females. One young woman once told me she "would kill to have a body like mine." The whole thing was horrifying to me.
I now intentionally dress "like a bag lady" (my husband's description), never wear makeup, don't do much about combing my hair. I try my best not to look attractive, because I hate the attention and jealousy. This is something I don't think an NT could understand.
I never knew how to handle the attention I got from males (which led to some horrible events) nor the jealousy I got from females. One young woman once told me she "would kill to have a body like mine." The whole thing was horrifying to me.
I now intentionally dress "like a bag lady" (my husband's description), never wear makeup, don't do much about combing my hair. I try my best not to look attractive, because I hate the attention and jealousy. This is something I don't think an NT could understand.
Does this work? This is my plan, to wear loose fitting and unattractive clothes. But what about your face? Do you wear a hat/veil/big glasses? What?? I even thought about making my own fatsuit to wear out in public (like they have in Hollywood when thin actresses like Gwyneth Paltrow portray fat women). I feel a real fear of attention, so much that I allowed myself to be overweight for my entire adult life. But at least there were no more horrible events that way! Thanks for your post.
Aww poor little pretty. She should try being fat for a day, see how much unwanted attention she gets over that.
Unwanted attention is unwanted attention, whatever the reason. Why attack dinosaur heretic? She is not the enemy.
12-08-2007, 06:56 PM
I think it's rather silly to suggest that Heather's not aspie just because she put herself into a situation which many of us would be uncomfortable with. In the past I've, for reasons which are rather complicated, placed myself into situations which were hugely difficult and uncomfortable given my social impairments. I've been a camp counselor at a sleep-away camp; I don't think that's proof I'm not aspie. Some of this sounds suspiciously like bigoted psychiatrists who think that autistics can't ever get married/have friends/make eye contact ever, etc.
Incidentally, I agree that the modeling profession is rather shallow and promotes unrealistic body images. But I'm certainly not going to begrudge Heather for trying to enter it when she's naturally endowed to do so. I think she really showed a likable and relatable personality on the show. I don't think there should be a single spokesperson for AS, but she wouldn't be a bad choice at all IMO.
Incidentally, I agree that the modeling profession is rather shallow and promotes unrealistic body images. But I'm certainly not going to begrudge Heather for trying to enter it when she's naturally endowed to do so. I think she really showed a likable and relatable personality on the show. I don't think there should be a single spokesperson for AS, but she wouldn't be a bad choice at all IMO.
12-19-2007, 05:48 AM