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yes...and it was painfull...once it happend to me when I was 18 with a person that I really liked and had great respect for.The person who said it wasnt even angry at the moment he said it...
Now I feel like people think it from time to time,but people dont say it anymore.
When I was about 16 people at school suggested that I went and kill my selv,so they could finaly get rid of me...and laughed or,another time,went and stuck my head down the meat-machine(lack of english word in dictionary)
Emmy, I'm so sorry. Sad

I'm sure there are people who think I'm ***, like all these girls from my summer camp who used to wave at me and say, "Hi!!" all the time... but not in a "Hey, what's up?" kinda way, more like a "Aww, poor thing, let's all show her we care about her even if no one else does," kinda way... Rolleyes I just ignored it and said hi back. One of those girls is actually sort of a friend to me now (well, more like a "friend of a friend of a friend who I see a lot"), and I don't think she thinks that way about me anymore.

I know a lot of kids at school do. For several reasons... one, I always keep to myself. Two, when I talk, I often can't think of what to say and get caught on my words. Three, I'm not afraid to talk to people who do are mentally *** like equals. Apparently that's unheard of at my school. -___-

And the librarian. I was nine or ten, but tall for my age, and was checking out some books, and the librarian asked me why I wasn't in school. I said I was homeschooled. She asked if I liked it and I said no, I wanted to go back to public school. She gave me this "sympathetic" look and said, "Well, just keep reading your books. You'll get there!" When I tried to tell her I was only homeschooled because I didn't get along with the other kids in my class, she didn't believe me... -____- she told me to keep reading my books again. It might have had something to do with the fact that one of the books I was checking out was written for seventh-graders. I only checked it out because of one of my Aspie rules that I had to check out every single book on a certain shelf, and that book happened to be on that shelf.

I don't think I would mind people thinking I was *** quite so much if they would treat me with respect, anyway, instead of talking to me like a baby.

SheWhoCan'tThinkOfAUsername Wrote:
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Emmy, I'm so sorry. Sad

I'm sure there are people who think I'm ***, like all these girls from my summer camp who used to wave at me and say, "Hi!!" all the time... but not in a "Hey, what's up?" kinda way, more like a "Aww, poor thing, let's all show her we care about her even if no one else does," kinda way... Rolleyes
That happeend to me too Sad

I just ignored it and said hi back. One of those girls is actually sort of a friend to me now (well, more like a "friend of a friend of a friend who I see a lot"), and I don't think she thinks that way about me anymore.

I know a lot of kids at school do. For several reasons... one, I always keep to myself. Two, when I talk, I often can't think of what to say and get caught on my words. Three, I'm not afraid to talk to people who do are mentally *** like equals. Apparently that's unheard of at my school. -___- Just like me!!!! :o

And the librarian. I was nine or ten, but tall for my age, and was checking out some books, and the librarian asked me why I wasn't in school. I said I was homeschooled. She asked if I liked it and I said no, I wanted to go back to public school. She gave me this "sympathetic" look and said, "Well, just keep reading your books. You'll get there!"
Its like when I was at work and someone said to me:You look like an intelligent girl,im sure youll get a good job soon!
I felt like they thought my job at the time wore crap...


When I tried to tell her I was only homeschooled because I didn't get along with the other kids in my class, she didn't believe me... -____- she told me to keep reading my books again. It might have had something to do with the fact that one of the books I was checking out was written for seventh-graders. I only checked it out because of one of my Aspie rules that I had to check out every single book on a certain shelf, and that book happened to be on that shelf.
Hehe,I have to walk between the white lines when I cross the road...Rolleyes But its typical that such coincideces has to happen right then...Sad

I don't think I would mind people thinking I was *** quite so much if they would treat me with respect, anyway, instead of talking to me like a baby.
Or bow down to your cher, stare in the eyes through the whole conversation, and talk r-e-a-l-l-y s-l-o-o-o-w-l-y-. Defenetly agree!

GuessWho Wrote:
(I answer back in red text)
a Jack Kervorkian gift certificate. 
What is that?

She said she would pay off her student loan with her Social Security check.
Hahahaha,she made a big fool out of her self...Rolleyes
What did you answer,then?

ichtms Wrote:
Not so much nowadays but when I grew up my older brother always went on about what an idiot I was. He was/is somewhat of a bully joking about people around him but basically clueless as to what it means to others in terms of hurt...

Did you manage to answer him back quickly with a sharp comment that he deserved?
That was my big problem...

GuessWho Wrote:
Emmy, you might not be American or old enough to understand.  

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Kervorkian

Jack Kervorkian helped terminally ill people (who presumably sought his help of their own initiative) commit suicide, and was sentenced to up to 25 years in prison because suicide is a crime and a sin.  They let him out June 1 2007 because he is very sick, and might not live too much longer.

Now I get it!Smile
You did the right thing by laughing it of...its better than to cry of sorrow for her stupidity....Sad

America is far away from hereTongue
I should be old enough too get the english grammar right,though... ...

garmonbozia Wrote:
Not so much now (that I'm 6'3", have a master's degree in computer science, and a brown belt in karate), but I got that crap all the time back in middle school.  (That was in the nasty 1980's.)  My favorite one was "Hey man, you got some kind of disability problem?"

Earlier this year, my parents came to visit.  They went on the standard tour at the place I volunteer at.  I introduced them to a few of my co-volunteers that I happened to see.  I answered a question for the one who was acting as cashier, and she made a remark to my parents on how I was a bit slow with the answer.  I let that one slide, but I didn't think it was appropriate.  (I'm 34 for ****'s sake.)  She probably just didn't realize it was rude.

I'm absent-minded.  That I can live with, and I'll even tell you that myself up-front.

Have you got epilepsy?
I do.I thought it was abcense-attacs,but due to the neuropsychology-tests I took I first learnt about ADD.

I don't think my intelligence levels have been put to speculation, but sometimes I think people think I can't understand what's happening. I can talk to people I know well, but in my class I am surrounded by loud, socially orientated and sometimes judgemental people and it takes me out of my comfort zone. As a result I don't talk often, and when I do it comes out in a babble.

I am trying to curb that though- not because I want to be normal, but becasue I am not naturally that shy- it's a defence and I want to be myself. I'm aming to talk and act as I usually would, and to fight my own battles rather than hide behind teachers skirts, which I was doing through years 7 and 8.

Why did I just write that paragraph- it isn't relevant.

ichtms Wrote:
Not so much nowadays but when I grew up my older brother always went on about what an idiot I was. He was/is somewhat of a bully joking about people around him but basically clueless as to what it means to others in terms of hurt...


I had the same & still do from a sister, although 'stupid is the word used in my case.

I have often been called weird, stupid  & smart (in the sarcastic sense of the word) by others' I haven't been called ***.

Both of my sons have been called all of these names.

no, because, whilst alien to me, i made a complete attempt to learn how to deal with these idiotic, westernised *humans* and to be honest, whilst hypocritical, and nonsensical most of the time, it's not too hard to learn how to interact with them...i find once i honed these skills i had the opposite problem, my high level of intelligence and ability to argue tended to drive these neurotypical beings to violence because they couldn't prove me wrong with their nonsensical, ill informed, ramblings...

i wouldn't really advise my hard line of looking down on western society because i'm probably a time bomb waiting to explode...but at least for now they can't call me *** ^.^ xx

KalahariMeerkat Wrote:
I know people think it because what kind of normal 20 year old goes around buying MY Little Ponies? Cashiers look at me weird when they see me with stacks of them. But that's their problem. As long as they don't say anthing insulting it dosen't bother me. If someone did say something, I'd reply, "And why is that your buisness?"   My mom says I have mild mental retardation because I "don't retain things". What it is I am supposidly supposed to retain I don't know. But then she dosen't retain everything either, does that make her ***. No. Some people just aren't experts in phycology and my mother definatly isn't one of them.


i have a problem retaining things...things that to me simply don't matter in this world...ie shutting the bathroom door and making sure i've wiped all the pee off the seat..."who cares? i'm trying to write a symphony, leave me alone!"

i'm increasingly believing that asperger's isn't really a problem with communicating, its a problem with accepting, learning and remembering all the little bullshit protocols that society throws at us...telling the time, tieing your shoes...i don't fecking care, i sleep when it's dark and wear buckled new rock boots :p x

tenaciouscj Wrote:

Xanderbeanz Wrote:

KalahariMeerkat Wrote:
I know people think it because what kind of normal 20 year old goes around buying MY Little Ponies? Cashiers look at me weird when they see me with stacks of them. But that's their problem. As long as they don't say anthing insulting it dosen't bother me. If someone did say something, I'd reply, "And why is that your buisness?"   My mom says I have mild mental retardation because I "don't retain things". What it is I am supposidly supposed to retain I don't know. But then she dosen't retain everything either, does that make her ***. No. Some people just aren't experts in phycology and my mother definatly isn't one of them.


i have a problem retaining things...things that to me simply don't matter in this world...ie shutting the bathroom door and making sure i've wiped all the pee off the seat..."who cares? i'm trying to write a symphony, leave me alone!"

i'm increasingly believing that asperger's isn't really a problem with communicating, its a problem with accepting, learning and remembering all the little bullshit protocols that society throws at us...telling the time, tieing your shoes...i don't fecking care, i sleep when it's dark and wear buckled new rock boots :p x


Xanderbeanz, wouldn't you feel embarrassed if somebody saw you in the toilet if the door was open? For some reason, women in particular go really ballistic when guys leave pee on toilet seats. It doesn't bother me very much - I would just wipe it off with toilet paper.

A woman at my work used to leave skid marks on the toilet seat AND not wash her hands afterwards and just about everybody was disgusted because it was smelly and they didn't want to catch a disease like Hep C or similar..

I do disregard some other unwritten "rules" though because I think if they are so important they should be written down eg. I never say a person who died "passed away" and I don't ever wear high heeled shoes for instance.


oh right, no, i meant closing the door AFTER i'd been to the toilet, i tend to leave the bathroom door open...and it really annoys my mother for some reason

x

We never keep our bathroom door shut when not in use.
Quite right much more hygeinic.
All that I can say is...all of you who find toilet paper in a public toilet anywhere including supermarkets, are very fortunate indeed.Big Grin

They never have any !!Sad

Oh dear yet another thing to be jealous of.Rolleyes

I need a handbag full of tissues & boxes in the car boot.Rolleyes
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