People sometimes think I am something called '***' or something called 'crazy', and say so. I don't consider those categories to be insulting, I consider it more insulting that people think of those categories of people as insulting to be compared to. And I have a problem with the stereotypes of those categories.
This happened quite a few times when I was younger, but not recently, no. It's kind of hard to think of a person as being *** when they have a B.S. in Psychology.
i dont mean that i mean that poeple treat me like i cant think for my self and try to help me when i want a chance to prove to my self that i dont need it.
Oh. In that case most people with genuine intellectual disabilities don't like being treated that way at all either.
GuessWho -- not to derail the thread, but most of his victims were not terminally ill, simply disabled and suicidally depressed (one of whom seemed to be only suicidally depressed, and aspects of her depression were mistaken for a physical disability that on autopsy she didn't have, or something like that). Many were not even physically incapable of killing themselves (anyone who can operate their own wheelchair can do so with a bit of imagination, unless they're on suicide watch or something... sorta like people outside of wheelchairs). He was sentenced to jail after one of them said "wait" and he killed him anyway, claiming later that he'd never understood a word the guy said in the first place. Killing a non-disabled person is not suicide even if they ask for it, the same is, believe it or not, true of the rest of us who don't fall into the category of non-disabled.
Batman -- I have a theory that certain aspects of a person's appearance are identically represented within the stereotypes of "***" and "geeky/really smart", and only other things (I'm not sure which) make people pick one or the other. But I have no way of testing that theory.
Yes, all the time. I can not blame them. It is my outward appearance. Some are kind in their intentions, others strictly see me as inferior. Both speak to who they are, not who I am. Hrick
I'm friends with two brothers who have autism spectrum conditions. They have learning difficulties but are very intelligent. Some people said they were unintelligent because they struggled with school work but they didn't realise that there are other forms of intelligence than simply being good at school.
I've never been thought to be ***, but I've often been told I have "no common sense," and sometimes people do lose patience with my slow learning of new skills and become snappish or condescending in the way they talk to me.
In my case, people seem to attribute the ditziness to my very protective middle-class upbringing (at least once at my blue-collar workplace I have been referred to as a "little rich girl," which is hilariously off-base), and to the fact that I take psychiatric medication (for ADD) and go to therapy and am therefore "nutty." (I think, for all my quirks, I am healthier than certain others at work who could use help with their issues!)
Yes, I got that too. Dad was a professional and my parents were very overprotective so when I left home, I was hopelessly naive about some things, especially interpersonal relationships.
For instance, when I made a complaint about a person not speaking nicely to me at work, I ended up getting vilified by the manager and he brought up all this garbage that there was supposed to have been all these complaints about the quality of my work from my previous manager (which I was never shown). I had to go off on two weeks stress leave because of the whole incident which was very traumatic.
I've survived there and now the attitudes towards staff are more civilised. Had I been in the union, I could have made a complaint about harassment and discrimination (due to my history of depression which was used against me a few months later to try and sack me - by that time, I was in the union and management ended up with egg on their face because the Commonwealth Doctor said I was healthy and quite capable of doing the job)
Alot of norms actauly do treat me like I'm more mentaly held back than I am, and usualy just because I mention AS. Shows how little they know, doesn't it. [/align]
I know people think it because what kind of normal 20 year old goes around buying MY Little Ponies? Cashiers look at me weird when they see me with stacks of them. But that's their problem. As long as they don't say anthing insulting it dosen't bother me. If someone did say something, I'd reply, "And why is that your buisness?" My mom says I have mild mental retardation because I "don't retain things". What it is I am supposidly supposed to retain I don't know. But then she dosen't retain everything either, does that make her ***. No. Some people just aren't experts in phycology and my mother definatly isn't one of them.
i have a problem retaining things...things that to me simply don't matter in this world...ie shutting the bathroom door and making sure i've wiped all the pee off the seat..."who cares? i'm trying to write a symphony, leave me alone!"
i'm increasingly believing that asperger's isn't really a problem with communicating, its a problem with accepting, learning and remembering all the little bullshit protocols that society throws at us...telling the time, tieing your shoes...i don't fecking care, i sleep when it's dark and wear buckled new rock boots :p x
Xanderbeanz, wouldn't you feel embarrassed if somebody saw you in the toilet if the door was open? For some reason, women in particular go really ballistic when guys leave pee on toilet seats. It doesn't bother me very much - I would just wipe it off with toilet paper.
A woman at my work used to leave skid marks on the toilet seat AND not wash her hands afterwards and just about everybody was disgusted because it was smelly and they didn't want to catch a disease like Hep C or similar..
I do disregard some other unwritten "rules" though because I think if they are so important they should be written down eg. I never say a person who died "passed away" and I don't ever wear high heeled shoes for instance.
We never keep our bathroom door shut when not in use.
That's also what I've always done.
As for the *** thing, it doesn't happen much now that I'm an adult, but growing up, people did think that. Even when I was out of high school, some people still talked down to me as if they thought I was ***. I actually quit volunteering at a school for severely disabled students because I got sick of being treated as if I was one of them.
Just use the wax paper toilet shields. No one likes to sit on a wet seat.
If you sprinkle
when you tinkle
be a sweetie
and please wipe the seatie
public men's bathroom, Martinsburg, WV
Everybody has to sit down sooner or later, so there is something "in it for you"
If I'm in a hurry, I don't care. A wet seat would be the least of my worries!
Just use the wax paper toilet shields. No one likes to sit on a wet seat.
If you sprinkle
when you tinkle
be a sweetie
and please wipe the seatie
public men's bathroom, Martinsburg, WV
Everybody has to sit down sooner or later, so there is something "in it for you"
If I'm in a hurry, I don't care. A wet seat would be the least of my worries!
I know what you mean...if it's urgent it's urgent!
Luckily as a bloke I don't have to sit down too often.
Yes, different equipment.
. Whereas, we ladies do have to sit. At least we don't have to use public urinals, which I think would suck a bit.
I put toilet paper inside the bowl sometimes.