09-06-2007, 10:02 PM
09-07-2007, 11:01 AM
great article. shame that it's NOT an alleged assault for a principal to sit on a five year old, where as it is when that five year old makes an understandable attempt to escape being sat on!
09-07-2007, 09:32 PM
HI! My name is Kim and I'm Aaron's mom from the article! A friend told me that the article was posted here and I just want to say that all of you are a blessing! Aaron has had a very difficult life and there were a few things we didn't mention in the interview, like the time a team of parents tried to have my son arrested while he was in middle school after he had a meltdown and the kids lied about him wanted to blow up the school! Thankfully, one of the students was brave enough to tell the truth!
My son IS an extrovert, so I smiled when I read the thread! He gets that from me, his mom! Now, he's not like that around EVERYONE, but once he's been around people he knows for a long time, the extrovert in him comes out! Since he attends a small school and has known everyone here as long as he can remember, he is very outgoing!
Thank you once again for spreading Aaron's story. Our intent all along has been to make SURE that the world realizes the outstanding potential of Aspies ~ and that if you give a person with Asperger's Syndrome respect and encouragement, miracles will happen!
~Kim~
My son IS an extrovert, so I smiled when I read the thread! He gets that from me, his mom! Now, he's not like that around EVERYONE, but once he's been around people he knows for a long time, the extrovert in him comes out! Since he attends a small school and has known everyone here as long as he can remember, he is very outgoing!
Thank you once again for spreading Aaron's story. Our intent all along has been to make SURE that the world realizes the outstanding potential of Aspies ~ and that if you give a person with Asperger's Syndrome respect and encouragement, miracles will happen!
~Kim~
09-08-2007, 12:18 AM
" I would apologize too but I find some people will never forgive me like I am some totally evil person and don't deserve to live."
M: Aaron has felt the same as you do! It's been a "one way street" for him in that he's expected to understand NTs and NTs don't have to understand him. That's what I hope his story will bring out to the NT world ~ that people with AS have so much to offer! And to be understood!!!
I taught Aaron how to apologize when he was in middle school. He didn't understand why people would shun him after a meltdown. Once the meltdown subsides, everyone should forget about it. NTs don't work that way...they hold grudges.
If Aaron wasn't so upset about making friends and having relationships, he wouldn't have made the choice to learn how to apologize. I've never forced him, it's been his decision alone. All I did was give him the suggestion so he could make that choice for himself.
A lot of the social issues that NTs and Aspies have are that NTs take things "personal". I wish I could explain all of the issues behind that statement, but I don't always understand it myself!
{{{HUGS}}}
M: Aaron has felt the same as you do! It's been a "one way street" for him in that he's expected to understand NTs and NTs don't have to understand him. That's what I hope his story will bring out to the NT world ~ that people with AS have so much to offer! And to be understood!!!
I taught Aaron how to apologize when he was in middle school. He didn't understand why people would shun him after a meltdown. Once the meltdown subsides, everyone should forget about it. NTs don't work that way...they hold grudges.
If Aaron wasn't so upset about making friends and having relationships, he wouldn't have made the choice to learn how to apologize. I've never forced him, it's been his decision alone. All I did was give him the suggestion so he could make that choice for himself.
A lot of the social issues that NTs and Aspies have are that NTs take things "personal". I wish I could explain all of the issues behind that statement, but I don't always understand it myself!
{{{HUGS}}}
09-08-2007, 06:15 AM
Batman, My son takes things personally, too. Not everything, but some things. Things that I wouldn't think, as an NT, need to be taken personally. And then, he isn't bothered at all in the face of some social interactions that would leave me drowning in tears. I really don't know how he'll interpret things most of the time. Even during the interview, I was in awe of how he looked at the reporter and answered her questions. Usually when he meets new people he says very little and looks downward. As he gets older, I hope he'll be able to answer more of my questions about how his mind works. For now, he really just wants to have fun with his last year in high school and not have me analyzing him very much! LOL!
One of the gifts that he carries within is that he doesn't hold grudges. He can take something personally, get extremely upset about it, and then after he calms down he is able to forget about it. And he's truly baffled at those who are still angry about a situation that happened the day before. "What happens in the past stays in the past" would be a good motto for him :-)
One of the gifts that he carries within is that he doesn't hold grudges. He can take something personally, get extremely upset about it, and then after he calms down he is able to forget about it. And he's truly baffled at those who are still angry about a situation that happened the day before. "What happens in the past stays in the past" would be a good motto for him :-)
09-08-2007, 01:57 PM
Good analogy, thanks!
Maybe if I wasn't his mom, I wouldn't want to get inside his head. He's an amazing person to me and I enjoy getting to know more about him when I can :-)
Maybe if I wasn't his mom, I wouldn't want to get inside his head. He's an amazing person to me and I enjoy getting to know more about him when I can :-)