Aspies For Freedom

Has anyone ever been to school & noticed that people don't talk to us like normal citizens. I don't think I've ever met someone who talked to me like a human being in 4 years. Do professors have answers for this?

I don't think i've been patronised in any huge amount, but I know it is hugely annoying, and I have sworn never to patronise anyone I ever meet in my life. Ever.

If certain people carry on tell them so. Don't shout, but answer like a child or tell them that you are the same age as 'X', who they talk to like an equal, so why don't they talk to you like an equal? They probably don't notice they're doing it, so the best thing to do is let them know.

From what i've gathered, people as a rule do it to people they see to be weaker than them. I was watching a hospital programme (real life, not drama/soap) and one of the nurses said to a patient who was strugging to walk after an op; Oooh, it's like you've been for a little jog! in a baby voice. My Mum was sat next to me and I commented about it to her, and she disagreed. She thought it was nice and kind, not patronising.

Patronising others could be a downside of NT social intuition.

trouble is the ones who do so to me are YOUNGER than me.

I think you should tell them that you are not a child and can understand plain English (or whatever your native or preferred language is)

Why do they do this? In my opinion it is because they are either Ignorant, Disrespectful, or both.

Not all NT's do it, and not everyone who does it does it only to Aspies... and I don't think it's always because they're underestimating our intelligence, though that can be the case quite often...

When it IS because they're underestimating my intelligence, and I can tell, it's definitely annoying.

One time I went to this camp and I pulled a prank... everyone has "mail boxes" at camp. I was bored and so I sent a bunch of random mail... my sense of humor. -___- I don't know if it's an Aspie thing or not, but it the mail said stuff like, "Pineapples are the key to world peace and a limitless supply of toilet paper!" My NT acquaintance Jessica joined forces with me.  Well apparently someone at camp got scared about something my letter said, and apparently the camp leaders figured out it was me and Jessica who were sending the mail... and did they come up to me and say, "Hey, guys, if you're the ones sending the weird mail, can you stop? First years are getting scared."? No... they said in that dumb high voice, "We send mail to COMMUNICATE with people!! DDDDD Communication is good! I'm sure these people would be happy to communicate with you! But when people hear things they don't understand, it can be scary! D So could you do us a favor and try and make your communication meaningful?"

We send mail to communicate, do we? Wow, I never would've guessed that. -__________- It ticked me off so bad I sent them a six-page letter using words as "big" as I could imagine telling them how stupid they were. How's THAT for communication? And then the next thing they said when they saw me was... "Happy birthday!!!" How DARE they say happy birthday like nothing had ever happened!!?? Grrrrr.... I'm STILL really worked up about that.

It doesn't happen to me at school much...

It's happened to me as long as I can remember. It started at the end of grade 6 maybe even 5. Whenever someone talks to me they always use that weird high-pitch voice & they do it to be assholes. Not all of them but most of them & sometimes they embaress me by yelling my name across the schoolyard so I eventually stopped going out for recess. And I told the vice principal who talke dto the kid & you know what his reason was? He said, "I just wanna be friends with him." Yeah right! They don't seen to care that I'm the same age as them & I'm just as mature as them! *** THEM!!!
I hate my life & this is the main reason.

Aaarrgh, that's awful, genghis45.

for me not school girls scouts, they do it to me AND Miss my best friend.

Really? I get it at Church a lot, though before someone launches into an anti-religion/Christian/Mormon thing I would like to point out that I am disrespected almost everywhere else (in other, ruder ways) much more than I am at Church.

Maybe for the same reason many of us adults may be dismissed as inadequate for employment or romance?

Never happened to me. Probably cuz those around me know that doing so will earn them a dead arm.

I had a therapist two years ago and she used
"tu" for "you", instead of "vous", in french of course, I was 25! You use "tu" only for children or informal relationships like close friends, family...
I am often patronized, I always been in my life, but I learned to put people in their place when it happens.

I don't get patronized often. When I do however, it's always from family or someone close. Jeez..it's alot easier to be patronized by strangers ><

I've never really experienced this. I was only diagnosed recently so nobody knew I was AS when I was at school. I have also learned to act quite NT in public. The few work colleagues who I have told about my AS don't treat me any differently, they still treat me as an intelligent capable adult.

I don't think it has anything to do with how people perceive you as a person, just how they perceive AS. They think:
'AS = learning disability = I must talk to this person in the simplest way possible in order to be understood'.

If you spoke to the same person but they didn't know about your AS, they would probably talk to you like any other human being.

Maybe you should try telling them that you are not an idiot, most people with AS have higher than average IQs, and you would like to be spoken to like an adult please, as you are perfectly capable of understanding them.