Aspies For Freedom

To me, life is best understood through my intellect rather than my emotions, through knowns and givens rather than hypotheticals and maybes. Words clothed in too many layers of puns, sarcasm, and idioms remain hidden and far from my field of understanding. I prefer sameness and routines to surprises and spur of the moment changes. Do I have a one-track mind? Yes, but I'm tenacious if anything else. Am I insensitive to social rules and society's expectations? Probably, but only because I don't understand the reasoning behind them. But I would ask those who strive to follow the morals of society, how they came to have the final say in which kind of rules had to be followed. Am I blunt and rude? That depends. I suppose I could be on any given day, depending on the circumstances, just like anyone else. But when I am accused of being blunt and rude because I have provided an honest assessment and straightforward answer to a problem, I sit wrongfully accused and misunderstood. Many rules that are written are superceded in places I don't know, by unwritten rules of society. Honesty is not always the best answer and you should not always pursue things. So when are the written rules a given?

Is it the people with high status who make the rules? Why can't they be bothered to write them down.?

Do they delight in tripping us up? I guess they think we all know but we don't.

If somebody gives me a hard time about breaking a rule, I say "well, it wasn't written down anywhere". Then they say "You should have known better".

Well, I obviously didn't know "better" but they made a boo by thinking they could read my mind and assume that I knew what their rule was.

For instance, somebody told me that if you see somebody you haven't seen for a long time and you talk to them for a while and find out you don't have much in common, you should still say to them "how about we catch up for lunch sometime?".

He said it is polite to say that even though you never will see them again but to me that is duplicitous and phoney. I think it's best just to say "it was nice to see you again" and leave it at that.

Then he said "you should say to them - do drop in anytime" even if you don't want them to visit. I think you should only have to say this kind of thing if you really do want them to come around.