09-13-2007, 12:22 PM
woman from mars Wrote:
Emmy Wrote:
me too...
We MUST be twins ( Viking twins )
09-14-2007, 08:36 AM
I have seen a documentary about that but i still dont understand this:
People are treated so bad that they treat others the same mean way as grown ups ...I have been treated bad but I choose every day to treat people good and I hate what has happend to me and I can not ever imagine doing such stuff toward others...
People are treated so bad that they treat others the same mean way as grown ups ...I have been treated bad but I choose every day to treat people good and I hate what has happend to me and I can not ever imagine doing such stuff toward others...
09-14-2007, 09:43 AM
Lucie1 Wrote:
I am one of three sisters who were horribly abused by our mother psychologically, physically & sexually.
People didn't talk about things in those days, so if a neighbour would hear a child screaming in a house, it would be ignored.
Speaking for myself, we as children, thought that everyone was treated like this & that it was normal family life.
I accept this WFM's because as you say, it was your experience- - but my experience was completely the opposite. I remember feeling such shame about my family. I wished my family could have been like everyones else's - other peoples family's weren't like mine.
People didn't talk about things in those days, so if a neighbour would hear a child screaming in a house, it would be ignored.
Speaking for myself, we as children, thought that everyone was treated like this & that it was normal family life.
I accept this WFM's because as you say, it was your experience- - but my experience was completely the opposite. I remember feeling such shame about my family. I wished my family could have been like everyones else's - other peoples family's weren't like mine.
No way did I think it was normal!!I think abused people give out some kind of signal, just like the please manipulate me signal to would be abusers.
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I think abused people give out some kind of signal, just like the please manipulate me signal to would be abusers.
I HATE this comment - my mum didn't give out a "please manipulate me signal"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This takes the onus of the abuser and puts blame on the victim. Utter crap.
[/quote]NO,it does not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When are person has experienced violation/abuse either mentally or fysically,their mental personal limit scale often get broken and therefore many of us when in contact with others dont set the limits where we should and cruel people might observe this take adventage of it!
Its not our foult,but its our problem...
09-14-2007, 09:56 AM
Lucie1 Wrote:
Read my second post emmy - I reposted - my first post didn't come out the way I wanted it to.
I don't believe we gave out a please manipulate me signal. That comment makes me sick.
I don't believe we gave out a please manipulate me signal. That comment makes me sick.
I think some of us doo after the first abuse is gone...
09-14-2007, 10:04 AM
Lucie1 Wrote:
The problem lies with the abuser.
and we get the problem from them.I agree with you.
09-14-2007, 10:15 AM
Lucie1 Wrote:
http://www.bswaid.org/lc_cms/page_view.asp?ID=716
I understand your point Emmy - we all deal with things differently.
Personally speaking I wouldn't put up with from anyone - what I had to put up with as a powerless child - it made me stronger and all the more determined not to put up with crap.
I really hate bullies - they fire me up.
so - maybe we are just talking from different view points - each has validity.
I understand your point Emmy - we all deal with things differently.
Personally speaking I wouldn't put up with from anyone - what I had to put up with as a powerless child - it made me stronger and all the more determined not to put up with crap.
I really hate bullies - they fire me up.
so - maybe we are just talking from different view points - each has validity.
I think we agree,but just "speak past" eachother