My name is DeAnna. I am a parent of an 8 year old beautiful browneyed little boy named Brandon. Brandon was diagnosed with Autisim when he was 5. I noticed something wasn't quite right with his development around the age of 2.I am very fortunate though, because Brandon is in a mainstream classroom for most of the day. He is definatly along the lines of a highly functioning autie. Although, my heart breaks because my baby,like most autistic children,does not have any friends.his social skills are improving over the years, but still not to the point where he is having play dates of any kind.I would really like to talk to someone who understand how I am feeling.
My name is DeAnna .A 29 year old mother of an 8 year old autistic boy named Brandon. He is my entire world. I am just looking for people to talk to about their children(child) with autisim...someone who understands what I am going through with my son. Will someone please respond to me?
Hello Board,
Just joined after finding this forum after my 13 yr old daughters Diagnosis of 'High Functioning Autism/Asperger's Syndrome'.
I'm looking for something, not sure what as I'm still feeling quite bitter and angry about all of this. NOT because my daughter has Asperger's - I've suspected that since she was around four years old. But because for years she was punished at school for things she couldn't understand and didn't know how to respond to others. She is incredibly intelligent ( her testing results were 'off the scale') and therefore was labelled as Lazy at school as she refused to do mundane things like homework, however, once she had read or learned something, she genuinely had and could see no reason for doing it again - causing tremendous conflict with teachers.
I was accused of being a bad parent, with no sense of discipline due to her bizarre behaviour in class, I was accused of being a neglectfull parent who had produced an attention seeking child.
I spend every waking moment with my children (I have two others without any ASD's), I have always had to work from home as I could never hold down a job due to my daughter's problems and the fact that her school (almost daily) would suspend her for something. I was refused help at every turn and had to fight tooth and nail for her to be assessed and finally recognised as having genuine difficulties. Untimately making a 'parent referral' to Psychological services.
Like I said she is now 13 and only recently gotten a placement at a school where she is nurtured and valued, her clinical diagnosis came 4 weeks ago. That was quite a surreal experience!
I was told 'yes, as you expected she has Aspergers Syndrome/High Functioning Austism' - I was given a folder full of literature that told me nothing I didn't already know or hadn't already experienced with her and sent home.
I know nothing will change and I do not ever want to change her in any way. She is incredibly bright, a talented artist, a vocabulary I would kill for and very much her own person with her own sense of self worth.
But my greatest concern is that she is struggling with the diagnosis (I think), she seems to have slipped into a depression, become even more withdrawn and has begun to develop real eating issues - she just isn't eating. She always had unusual eating habits, for example, she likes simple home cooked food, but if we had meat, potatoes and veg, nothing on the plate could be touching anything else and certainly no sauces or gravies!
I feel I've let her down in some way - I pushed for this assessment, hoping she would be treated with greater tolerance as a result and she would be able to get support in school. It seems to have backfired as now instead of considering herself to be 'just lucky' as she though because everything academic came so easily to her, she feels different. She has no friends and indeed seems to have no desire at all to seek out other young people and I can't quite reach her just now.
Is this a common thing post diagnosis?
I'm sorry about this lengthy post, I had a lot to spill out.
hi i am a mother of an autistic son who is 8 years old i am finding it very hard to cope with him at the moment as my husband has just left is there any one out there that can give some advice how to deal with it all before i go mad thanks
My name is DeAnna .A 29 year old mother of an 8 year old autistic boy named Brandon. He is my entire world. I am just looking for people to talk to about their children(child) with autisim...someone who understands what I am going through with my son. Will someone please respond to me?
hi i am a mother of an 8 year old autistic boy called charlie and it is very hard charlie is a borderline autistic so some days are worse than others. and too top it all my husband has left as well so it would be good to talk to some one else in the same boat you are not alone out there but it can feel like it believe i know
My name is DeAnna .A 29 year old mother of an 8 year old autistic boy named Brandon. He is my entire world. I am just looking for people to talk to about their children(child) with autisim...someone who understands what I am going through with my son. Will someone please respond to me?
Hi DeAnna,
I'm the mother of an 11 yr old Autistic boy also named Brandon.He is my youngest child. I also have a 14 yr old NT son.I can try to understand anything you're going through and if I can, give you any support you need. I'm a great listener so if you need me just give me a message.